crimsoncurrent Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 After a month of NC, I'm beginning feel as though I'm finally moving on from the BU. I'm starting to become more engaged in my daily activities, waking up less disheartened and depressed. I've been exercising also, losing 10 pounds in three weeks. I still miss and think about her daily. Also, although they've decreased in their intensity, I have urges to see her, wanting to check fb or drive by her house at night. During these moments, I sit with my feelings, letting them pass and assuring myself they're temporary. The thought of her being intimate with someone else doesn't bother me nearly as much. I'm finally accepting reality. I'm confident that I can live life well without her. Thanks for those who've responded to my previous posts. This site has been incredibly helpful.
TrueLoveSeeker Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Good job. I hope i can feel like you one day. I just started absolute NC 2 days ago with the intention of never talking to her again. I cant wait till I get her out of my mind. One day. 1
Author crimsoncurrent Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 Good job. I hope i can feel like you one day. I just started absolute NC 2 days ago with the intention of never talking to her again. I cant wait till I get her out of my mind. One day. Congratulations on starting no contact! For me, the first three weeks were the most difficult, thinking about her compulsively and just running in a lower gear during the day. During week 2, I had these moments of disbelief. I would almost become perplexed that the relationship was over and she was gone. Week 3, although I was missing and longing for her deeply, I started accepting that the emotions I was feeling weren't mutual on her end. It is really tough and even now, I still have to prepare myself emotionally daily, repeating to myself I will experience another day without any contact from her. Exercise and being sociable really helped me. I'm actually considering getting a tattoo, just to do something that is uncharacteristic of myself. NC is a time of self-reinvention, I think. Stay strong! It's certainly manageable. Emotions can't kill you.
treezy Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 That's encouraging, I'm about two weeks NC now and I agree things are definitely improving. I've started to make plans for myself to resume the activities I was doing before I met my ex, and to try new stuff out. I still have my down days though, but at least I've stopped looking at my phone that much. I kind of gave up hope that he would call. I mean, I'd still love for him to call, but I gave up. No point holding on to something that's not really there anymore. Anyway, do stay strong, you're doing great. 1
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