lost 'n alone Posted August 30, 2004 Posted August 30, 2004 I ended my affair with a MM a few months ago. He won't leave me alone. He keeps emailing me and has called me at work a few times. He doesn't call me at home because he doesn't know that I have my own place and that my phone # is unlisted (because of him). He lives in another province which is a good thing. He wants us to be friends but he pretty much expects me to call him and email him all the time. If I go away from my computer for a few days he takes a big fit! He thinks I party and drink all the time..i don't. I just don't think what I do is any of his business anymore. Frankly I'm afraid of him. I really don't know what he's capable of. He has never hit me but if you look at my last posting earlier in August you can see how verbally abusive he is. I had confided in him about some stupid things that I had done in my past (in my early 20's - I'm 37 now) when we first were together (in 1999). Now he's using that against me and that he'll tell my father/parents who are in their late 60' and really don't need to know. Now it feel like.....be my friend or else! I know he's living in a pretty big glass house so he shouldn't throw stones. I would never tell his wife. Why hurt her just to punish him??? I know then too if I did he would go crazy! These are portions of what he sent me this afternoon........... >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> I don't want your friendship anymore, it's just not worth anything........ guess I'll just be one of the other guys you had, and never heard from again..... seems to work just great for you...... >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> read the ****in email and then you'll know what I say saying what a ****in joker you are............... you have a great way of playing dumb >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> didn't KNOW THAT JAN AND FEB WAS THE LAST TIME I WOULD HEAR FROM YOU AS A FRIEND WHAT IS THIS :DIDN'T KNOW ABOUT WHAT? THIS IS A JOKE TO YOU RIGHT? YOU WON FOR NOW ANYWAY >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> ....For now anyway....great. Now I sit back in fear...watch over my shoulder...look in my rearview mirror. Can anyone offer some advice at all?? I just don't know what to do. I'm tired of crying all the time!! Lost
2Confuzed Posted August 31, 2004 Posted August 31, 2004 Yeah, I would say he fits the "stalker" image. It's good you have your home number unlisted. You should consider changing your email address, or just not reply to him when he writes to you. Totally ignore him.
katie79 Posted August 31, 2004 Posted August 31, 2004 a nut. At this point the way it sounds is he has potential, but he could eventually give up too. Sounds like he's more of a nut though. Be careful. Don't go overboard, but keep you guards up for the time being. Don't erase your emails either...they might be evidence at some point (I'm not kidding either). Record the phone calls. You said "an affair", so if this nut gets out of hand, you husband is going to wind up finding out obviously. This is also another reason why cheating is a bad idea. Sex and the other person can create a variety of unpleasant senerios, pregnancy, diseases, jealousy, hatred, revenge, stalking, etc. You should learn from this.
Author lost 'n alone Posted August 31, 2004 Author Posted August 31, 2004 No. I'm not married. No children either. He's still married ... one child.
LolaLopez Posted August 31, 2004 Posted August 31, 2004 Your parents would understand that you made mistakes. They've made them. Don't let that scare you, don't give him that power. Those emails scare me too,though. This is a hard one. If I was the wife I would want to know. You'd be doing me a huge favor. I heard on Oprah that namecalling, etc. is a lead in to physical violence. Be ready to do what you need to do to protect yourself, may mean coming clean. L
Peachy Posted August 31, 2004 Posted August 31, 2004 Do WHATEVER YOU NEED TO DO TO PR0TECT YOURSELF!!!! my sister was murdered by a stakler.!!!
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