idontknow98 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 I broke up with my ex and I regret it sooo much. We havent contacted each other in 2 weeks. I ruined her trust and I'm thinking about just breaking the NC and opening up to her and just telling her everything...at this point I have nothing to lose. Any thoughts?? I apologized and she accepted it but she said she couldnt give me a second chance so easily..then a week later she told me that if we did try again she would be afraid that I would feel the same way I did the first time.
CautionaryTale Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 You have posted this same question a couple of times now. Just because you don't like the answers, doesn't mean they're going to change unfortunately. Keep with your NC, if she decides at some point that she misses you and does want to give it another go, she WILL contact YOU. You have already apologized and she is well aware that you want her back. All you're going to do is drive her further away if you continue on pestering her. There isn't anything that you can do to prove her you're trustworthy unless SHE wants to let you. I believe that was your last piece of advice, I'm just going to reiterate. 2
AlexfromBoston Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 I broke up with my ex and I regret it sooo much. We havent contacted each other in 2 weeks. I ruined her trust and I'm thinking about just breaking the NC and opening up to her and just telling her everything...at this point I have nothing to lose. Any thoughts?? I apologized and she accepted it but she said she couldnt give me a second chance so easily..then a week later she told me that if we did try again she would be afraid that I would feel the same way I did the first time. I can tell you this much, no two women are alike and only you(and YOU alone) can decide how you are going to approach this situation. Personally, my girlfriend loves persistence and she likes it when her man fights for her love and attention. She told me flat out, "if you didn't contact me, I would never have called you again". She wanted me to show interest and provide her with a modicum of love and attention(something I rarely did) for once. So basically I fought for her and hounded her until I got her in a "friend zone" state(a small, casual "date"). I knew if we were hanging as friends I could redevelop the attraction and rekindle our relationship. This was my personal experience and because of this, I never recommend NC as a means to win back your ex. Although your ex may want her space and time to digest your past relationship. My advice, give her another week and see if she contacts you. If not, give her a call and let her know that you agree with the separation but would like to meet up with her briefly just to discuss some things. If she accepts your offer be confident, strong and don't show your true emotions. End the date on a good note...don't talk about the status of your failed relationship and try to conjure up the good memories. Also, DO NOT have sex with her and let her know that you need time to digest things as well. If you can secure a few more "dates" then maybe you can draw her back in and remind her of the guy that she initially fell for. Try to think back as to how you acted on your first date...copy that and add a whole lot of confidence.
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