He breaks up with me because I'm too "perfect," then asks to be friends a month later

[strabarie]

Hello,

I have been reading this forum for over a month now. I could really relate to many posts and some of the responses have helped me a lot. However, a month and half after the break up I have decided to create an account, because my situation is slightly different from the ones I have read and I am very curious to hear other people's opinions about it....

 

I'm 21 and he is 26, when we met we immediately clicked and fell in love almost immediately. Everything was perfect for 5 months, neither of us could believe how amazing our relationship was, we were honestly each other's best friends and every day was an adventure. He constantly told me I was perfect, and that dating other girls before me now seems silly because I am obviously the one for him.

 

Then, out of nowhere, he ignores me for several days and then takes our relationship off Facebook. I hear from mutual friends that he has told them he broke up with me, when he never even bothered to call me. Eventually after I called him out, he confessed that he "needed space" and was even rude to me in the way he was talking, like I have done something bad. This hit me out of the blue, I just saw him one morning, and that night he just decides to end it, without even bothering to tell me...

 

I cried for days, couldn't eat or sleep right for a while. Eventually I deleted his number and Facebook, but as we have many mutual friends I can still see on Facebook that he goes out with his friends all the time. I haven't talked to him or seen him in over a month, until he texts me one night. I didn't reply. The next day I happen to run into him, twice!.. I ignored him both times, and of course he ends up texting me again. I didn't reply. Then he texted asking to be friends!

 

I replied with a snappy comment... and eventually he said that he will then let me go and never contact me again if I do not want him to. Then the conversation kept going (I could not resist) and he admitted that he misses me and that the reason he broke up with me was because I was "too perfect" and the last time he felt like that about a girl he got hurt. That all he has told me was true and he was really in love with me, but what's done is done.

 

I saw him at the bar the other day, and we went to get some food after, and everything was like it was before. We talked for hours. It was great.

 

But now I am just confused. NO I do not want to be friends with him! I still love him and want to be with him, and there is no way I can be friends with him. But the fact that he said he just got scared and freaked out, that makes me think that maybe there is still a chance... Maybe, even though he hurt me so much, he is going to do something to make up for it all and everything will be back to normal? I know I am just daydreaming. In reality, I understand that he probably just wanted an ego boost, or he misses me and wants me back in his life but not to date... I just can't find a reason why he wouldn't want to be with me and as much as he has hurt me, I know that he is exactly the kind of person I want to be with.

 

What the hell is he doing?...

 

 

Thank you so much for taking your time a reading this..

I have been asking myself hundreds of questions every day and replaying different scenarios in my head... And I just don't know what to do anymore.