Kind of condused

[idontknow98]

This is my situation. I broke up with her but I regret the decision badly....it was because I felt we had drifted apart because it had been a while since we had seen each other. I contacted her after a week of being broken up and I apologized and asked for a second chance. She said she could accept my apology but coudn't give me a second chance so easily. Then a week later she came up to me in person and says she was afraid if we tried again I would feel the same way the first time and that I shouldn't contact her anymore. Does she still have feelings for me or miss me? Is it possible that she will give me a second chance? I haven't contacted her in over a week. She acts happy when she sees me but other people tell me that she isnt the same since we broke up. Other people tell me she flirts with other people behind my back..and I just think it is childish but I still end up being all depressed and moping around when I still know I shouldnt let her control me like that and let her see me depressed. I am having a hard time dealing with NC.

Edited February 14, 2013 by idontknow98

[Love Bytes]

She may not be able to trust you again. You may have crushed her when you left her, and she's not willing to take the chance that it won't happen again.

 

I'd do anything for my ex to come back to me...and if she did, I know I'd jump right back in...but I'd always have that fear in the back of my mind...

[idontknow98]

How would I prove to her that it wont happen again?

[Love Bytes]

How would I prove to her that it wont happen again?

 

Short answer: You can't.

 

Sorry, but it is what it is. That doesn't mean something can't ever happen, and a little fear is ok, but I can honestly say that when my ex broke up with me in December, it was the worst thing that ever happened to me. Bar none. And I'm coping "ok" now, but someone can only handle something like that so many times.

[sadpanda87]

it doesnt sound like you believe it yourself why would you lie to her?

 

you're young, know what you want first before making promises. see some new people

[TaraMaiden]

This is my situation. I broke up with her but I regret the decision badly....it was because I felt we had drifted apart because it had been a while since we had seen each other. I contacted her after a week of being broken up and I apologized and asked for a second chance. She said she could accept my apology but coudn't give me a second chance so easily. Then a week later she came up to me in person and says she was afraid if we tried again I would feel the same way the first time and that I shouldn't contact her anymore. Does she still have feelings for me or miss me? Is it possible that she will give me a second chance? I haven't contacted her in over a week. She acts happy when she sees me but other people tell me that she isnt the same since we broke up. Other people tell me she flirts with other people behind my back..and I just think it is childish but I still end up being all depressed and moping around when I still know I shouldnt let her control me like that and let her see me depressed. I am having a hard time dealing with NC.

 

How many threads are you going to post before you "get it"....?

 

Every time you see her/ contact her, you break NC.

You have therefore only been in NC for a week.

 

You broke this - and you can fix it, sure - but only with her complete co-operation.

If she won't play ball, then you can't make this whole again on your own.

 

 

Let it be known - one last time - that you would be willing to do anything it takes to repair the damage you've caused, and prove to her that you're sincere.

 

Then - back off, drop off her radar, do not see her, contact her, text her, mail her, phone her, keep up with her on FB, and leave her completely alone.

And wait.

If, within 2 weeks, you hear nothing from her by way of an agreement to reconciliation (learn to distinguish between that and a simple attempt to reconnect with you) then you have your answer.