fred sanford Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 I started dating a girl in college that I went to school with in elementary school....now we are both in our early 20's...things were fine in the beginning, then she told me that she was getting kicked out her house and I already got kicked out my house and was living with a friend...my mother owns a house and told me I can rent an apartment so I took it but because of my religion I can't live with a woman unless I'm married but we had been talking about marriage way before this...so we had a long talk and 2 mths later we got married....fast forward 2 mths after the marriage and my wife would be txting late at night and would say its her female friends I said ok, her social networks were something that bothered me cause she would post like she's single...her birthday comes up and she said she goin out with friends I said ok but wen she came home I checked her phone and she had a guy that liked her pick her up from my house so I woke her up and she said he was just used for a ride...I was pissed, BTW I work 2 jobs and she had a job for about 3 mths then quit, and I would pay the bills, cook and give her back rubs wen I got off from work....she got tired and wanted to make easy money so applied to be an strip dancer...anyway, intimacy was less and less and I looked on her social networks and she was telling men that she was single, sleeping alone, needs a back rub....ordering a tv today, asking for a Twitter husband and instagram husband....I confronted her and she said its all fun, so I hit up my ex and started to talk to her......wife went to pa for a couple days and during that time I seen my ex and we kissed, and had a Facebook wife on the side ( I used to be a player ) because I knew it was wrong I told her all I was doing...she was mad but forgave me....time goes on and more arguments and less sex till no sex...her actions scream I wanna be single and I'm using u but I didn't wanna believe it.....we got into it again and moved to her aunts for space....and she is pregnant with my kid....she told me she's not attracted to me sexually anymore and I turn her off from me being a nagging husband and that if she was pregnant by anyone else she woulda had the baby but is deciding to abort.....she's gonna kill my kid cause she wants to live the rest of her life, she doesn't wanna be miserable and she thinks I'm trying to keep her around by having a kid...but still wants me to pay her phone bill and get her hair done and pay for her to go to school.....I got the hint so I stopped contacting her and she would txt me like I didn't hear from u all day...and I would reply I'm busy.......I was being used and to her being married was just a title for her....I'm a good man but I will never give my all to a woman anymore, neither will I get married again
coffeebean201 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 I guess you both need to sort out the pregnancy. Have you talked about counselling together?
Author fred sanford Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 I wanna keep the kid and she doesn't.....I think she's gonna get the abortion done some time nxt week.....and get this she said she gonna need me to console her and be there for her Lmao....and we did MC and it only worked for a week, the she was back to doing what she wanted
Lillyfree Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 (edited) the kid might not be yours. edit: clicked submit by mistake. OP, it is obvious that you married her without actually knowing her. you two don't have a marriage - it doesn't seem like she wants to be married. she has no respect for you. i understand that you're against her terminating the pregnancy without considering your opinion... which is why you shouldn't be her shoulder to cry on. Edited February 14, 2013 by Lillyfree
Gunny376 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 For any number of reasons I view Life and have a perspective that this life we're living here and now on The Third Rock From The Sun is really nothing more than just a big classroom. I feel that we're not Earthly beings having a Spiritual experience, but Spiritual Beings having an Earthly experience. Within that framework I post the following ~ The things that happen to us in Life, are cosmic ~ spiritual lessons, and thus they happen to us for a reason. It may take time and indeed it may even take a life time for us to fully comprehend and reconcile what that lesson would be. It may be that it is only within the context of our eternal spiritual being that we can fully the lesson? Obviously what comes to the forefront is that this woman is self-centered, selfish and a narcissus in the spirit and letter of the very word. Its me, me, me, me its all about me! What I want, what I need, .................I want what I want and I want it now. She's obviously not ready to be in a long term relationship with anyone, let alone a marriage. And its pretty obvious that you need to break any and all contact. No contact? Like a US Navy nuclear attack submarine patrolling under the Polar Ice Cap! :eek: Run silent and run deep! Very silent and very deep! But you've got another problem? She's prego with your child, (Me, myself and I? I have to have some DNA work done up before I cough up so much as a slug nickle, (Pretty past-say but many, many years ago you use to could make up some "slug nickles" in the high school vocational shop, and use them in coke machine, telephones, and cigarette vending machines! ~ Thus the term "slug nickle!" I'm 110% against abortion! Its not for religious reasons etc? I just intuitively know that its wrong! No " ifs, ands nor buts about! End of conversation. :mad: :mad: That aside? All in all you've got off easy! You've actually got off light. I know that's hard for you to see right now? But far, far better that you break it off with her while your in your early twenties than to invest ten, twenty, thirty years of the best years of your life ~ of your youth with someone such as her? Many do. The truth of the matter is? Most women aren't worth the time of day ~ let alone marrying, (Ditto for women when it comes to men!) There are about 25 or more "types of women" that will totally and completely mess up and ruin your life. There's the druggie / alcoholic There's the pain killer addicted There's the Prozac Woman There's the "I'll marry the first man that I can find that will marry me" woman There's the "Party ~ Flirt" woman that will constantly flirt with any and every man. There's the "I'm just looking for a meal ticket ~ looking for a payday! Looking for an Early Retirement" type man. There mentally and emotionally damaged ~ scared woman. The list is endless practically. Fortunately not any and all women are bad or fall into the above type category? And for each and every type of woman I've described above? The same holds true for men! Its easy ~ as in all day easy ~ for you to find someone you love and are in love with! But its just as hard to find someone that loves you and who's in love with you! Relationships are easy to get into ~ but they can be hard to maintain and an ever-loving bitch to get out of! Its hard to find someone that an and is willing to put up with all of your crazy azz ideas, listen to your never-ending dribble, bitches, moans and groans! Its hard to try and find someone who's willing to go through Hell and Damnation each and everyday with you! When you get into a relationship? Most people think they're marrying just one person? But actually? They're marrying at least three other type of persons! :eek: They're marrying the think they're marrying! They're marrying the person that they're actually marrying and finally? They're marrying the person that's going to marry as a result of having been married to your crazy azz for all these damn years! Being a young twenty something? You simply haven't yet gained the rudimentary and prerequisite life experience to make a relationship / marriage work! Its just that plain and simple! Most men can describe in explicit detail their idea car / motorcycle / stereo/ TV/ Video game set up/ bass boat,_________________________(fill in the blank! But they for the life of them tell you what they're looking for in a wife/spouse/partner/Life-mate? And even if they could? They most often don't have a clear definition of what they're not looking for. For most men? Its as simple as, "Wow! She's willing to have sex with me? Me! Me?" Congratulations! You've now gained a clearer definition and clear pretty picture in your head of what your NOT looking for in a woman! 1. She's not a selfish, self centered, narcissistic bitch! 2. She doesn't text other men! 3. She doesn't work as a stripper! 4. She doesn't believe in aborting my child! etc, etc, etc Hang in there kid! It gets better!
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