calgary Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 maybe if you're in a crowd walking to a bar or singing round a campfire.. but say you're sat in your car with your ex girlfriend driving round holding hands.. that's different right ? stood talking and holding hands. we broke up because she was holding hands with another guy infront of me and I got jealous about it. so I suppose in my case, holding hands means something to me and nothing to her ? would just like to hear peoples general views on holding hands.. what it means. is it not for friends? is it for friends too ? I guess it broke my relationship a while back so it's something i'm curious about.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Their are a few extremely touchy feeley people who hold hands with friends. But really truly honestly 90% of people don't hold hands with "just friends" of the opposite sex under any normal circumstance. The only people I've held hands with were relatives, and intimate partners or potential intimate partners. 2
Lani Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Does she know that her holding hands with another guy is what ruined your relationship earlier? If so, she will know it means something to you. So her holding your hand now has to mean a little something. Was it a linked fingers hold? Or like a clasp hold (that you'd do with a stranger when you helped them across the road)? 1
Author calgary Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 it was a linked fingers hold. but that is what she was doing with the other guy too! and she does know that's what ruined the relationship . I do like to think she knows it means something to me, she says she's not ready to be in a relationship right now.. the whole time we were together no other guy text her. it was a nice night we hugged a lot. I don't know what's going on. it was just a nice night.
Author calgary Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 Their are a few extremely touchy feeley people who hold hands with friends. But really truly honestly 90% of people don't hold hands with "just friends" of the opposite sex under any normal circumstance. The only people I've held hands with were relatives, and intimate partners or potential intimate partners. agreed! it wasn't a nice thing to see. she is a touchy friendly person. I know she was faithful. she was a good girl, but she couldn't see it was upsetting me and got mad at me for being jealous. even if she didn't mean it in a flirtatious way. the other guy did.
Lani Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 'Not ready to be in a relationship right now' is code for 'I don't want to be with you' Sorry... but the past has always proved this for me. 1
Author calgary Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 'Not ready to be in a relationship right now' is code for 'I don't want to be with you' Sorry... but the past has always proved this for me. that's what i'm thinking too! I just don't understand why she wants to go for coffee's and hold hands and cuddle.. talk about how she misses me and old times and says she loves me.. but then says she doesn't want a relationship until she's back on her feet.
Lani Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Back on her feet how? She sounds pretty flaky to me... keeping her options open. 1
KoKo0 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 I as well only hold hands with relatives, partners or potential partners.... not with friends.
Author calgary Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 Back on her feet how? She sounds pretty flaky to me... keeping her options open. she suffered a genuine bad time of depression it kicked in just before Christmas. she was struggling with work and family and friends and then I started giving her a hard time. I broke up with her . I don't think out right asking a girl if she wants to get back together works.. I think gradually building up her trust and sort of starting out like a new relationship would be a better way of getting her back.. i'm not sure I want her back I just enjoyed the night and wondered if I looked into the holding hands thing as her trying to lead me on.. only for me to say something and her throw it in my face that she holds all her friends hands or something.
Lani Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 If you're just wanting to build things up, then just enjoy the time you're spending with her. If she wants more, you'll know it in time. Just relax and let things take their course I guess.. 1
Author calgary Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 If you're just wanting to build things up, then just enjoy the time you're spending with her. If she wants more, you'll know it in time. Just relax and let things take their course I guess.. im just enjoying it. I do still love her she's lovely. it's nice she wants to text all the time and hold hands and cuddle. I didn't ask her out on the first date. I've just never really planned on getting back with an ex.. I wanted to at first for a while. but I understood she needed space and time and I gave her it and now she seems to be back slightly more than friends but less than a relationship!
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