Lov3BUG Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 I'm 20 years old and just went on this coffee date with a guy. I know him from college. Anyway, I had a great time. We talked and hung out sitting by a lake for four hours. He seems like a guy with great manners and is somewhat sensitive. Towards the end of our date I asked him if it was ok if I kissed him. He said he wanted to, but was hesitant because he didn't want to hurt me. So, we just kissed on the lips. He seems really interested in me. We've made plans to go to a movie this week. I guess my overall question at this point is, how do I keep him interested? I've just gotten out of a relationship and have been single for six months. Let's just say I'm a little rusty. He's not the kind of guy who is a player. He seems like the kind of guy who is quiet, and polite. I however am outgoing and talkative.
MissLY Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 BE YOURSELF. Always smile. Be sweet, charming and have fun when you're with him. Never act clingy or desperate. When he reaches out to you via text or phone call, always respond with joy and that you're excited to hear from him. Be a "cool" girl, never make it excessive (Overuse of smileys and exclamation points in a text message, for example) Continue enjoying your own life when you're not with him. That is very attractive to a man. Also, don't have expectations with this guy because you never know what his intentions are. Just have fun. And most importantly, do not have sex until AT LEAST 3 months in! Trust me. (That's if you're looking for a potential relationship of course) Hope this helps
RachR Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Towards the end of our date I asked him if it was ok if I kissed him. He said he wanted to, but was hesitant because he didn't want to hurt me. This is odd. And honestly, to me, a potential red flag. Why do you think he say that? Did he mean hurt you physically or something? Or possibly end up breaking your heart? And to add to the advice already given on keeping interest, get to know each other at a steady pace, you don't want to burn out.
pbjbear Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Be yourself. Seriously, you want someone to like the REAL you. Pretending to be someone else so a guy can like you gets old real fast I agree with the other poster, I wonder what he meant by that comment...
RebelWithoutACause Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Be nice, but don't be too nice. And be available, but not too available. Don't give away too much of what you are about because everybody likes a bit of mistery in the begining. This is not playing games, it's common sense, nobody wants a lovesick puppy. And take some time to get to know eachother before jumping to bed. If you try to use sex to keep a guy, it won't work.
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