cottom Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 With modern technology, everyone is just a click away. And this current "lad" culture of wanting to have sex with everything that moves and sayings such as "just because there is a goalie don't mean you can't score". First partner, she constantly had boys texting her, hitting on her, coming up to her. She left me for a guy she was texting, that she said was 'just friends' with. She left after 2 years together. Second partner, she had boys constantly meeting up with her and taking her out for meals just "as friends". She then left me and got back with her ex after 2 months of us. Then a few weeks later she left him for one of the guys she was meeting while with me. Third and latest partner, we were together for 2 years. She was constantly having guys come up to her, she was at uni and guys came and called for her on a daily basis, she insisted they were just friends but in the end she fell for the one kid and left me for him after 2 years. The point that im trying to say is when im with a girl i just now see that she has a lot of other guys talking to her, i get untrustworthy and leave it and dont take the meeting up and getting together any further. Girls always seem to be looking at other guys when they also have a partner, especially when they are early 20's like me. All i want is a relationship like my parents, grandparents, great grandparents etc where they met around 20 and fell in love and stayed together. But girls are always looking for better and when were together she will see my bad and good, guys flirting just show off their good so i seem worse off.
ls32ssibm Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 You can only trust a girl as much as an animal trainer can trust a tiger or a bear. One of these days, something will happen.
Fondue Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 The way I see it, you have two pretty good options: 1) "Stick it out," don't date for long term relationships, have some flings, enjoy yourself, get older/wiser and wait for the women to "mature." 2) If you want it RIGHT now, date older women. Older women are A LOT more into the whole life-progression, one boy/girl thing, and less chance to sway. I know quite a few "older" women whom are in late 20s-early 50s whom are single, all of them are absolutely wonderful people whom wouldn't lead you on or drop you the way you speak of.
ChessPieceFace Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Girls that were not raised with a good moral center and belief system are generally not trustworthy. Look for girls of character, they exist. I plan to try girls who were raised as christian, even though I don't call myself a believer. 2
soccerrprp Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 There is a common theme to your losses....the girls have multiple admirers. They must be extremely attractive and you must not seem to see the connection or something. Of course you have doubts about ANYONE that has multiple, consistent admirers of the opposite sex. Don't pick or stick around girls like that if your experience is always the same. The seek, feed on the attention...thank goodness I'm in my 40s. The women have issues, but for the most part not into the kind of behavior your exes have been exhibiting and have a greater appreciation for what a relationship involves and they also seem to have a better idea as to what they want and don't want.... Good luck.
pbjbear Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Everything you said holds true for men too by the way. Absolute hedonism and instant gratification is a big part of culture today- it is what it is
lino Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 I learnt from past experience to never again get involved with a girl who has predominantly male friends. It looks like you've now learnt this too
SJC2008 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Men and women look for the BBD. To me if you're gonna date someone not to be alone and just wait until something better comes along you're the epitamy of weak. The question is how do we learn the skills to see if this person is really into us or not? What are the signs to look for? Are there even signs or do we just have to "hope" it's real? You seem to meet women who have a lot of male friends. Mabye you should set boundaries at the begining of your relationship of what you will/won't tolerate regarding male friends.
crude Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Just toss your high and mighty principles and enjoy life. Make sure women are disease free and go for it. Previous generations stayed together out of habit. Millions of men cheated and slapped around their wives, millions of women smacked their husbands and generally just used men as meal tickets. Just because those people didn't get divorced doesn't mean they had good marriages.
ChessPieceFace Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 The girls who fall for texts from players aren't worth worrying about. Why is this "new age of texting" even something you worry so much about... start dating women with functioning brain cells...
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