TouchedByViolet Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 Sorry it didn't work out for you. Life sucks sometimes. Treat yourself to whatever you want to tomorrow and make it candie13 day. Hopefully the next guy does you right. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author candie13 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 It's stupid, 'cause it takes so little to make things work between to people. If it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be. The thing is, I don't just want a guy, any guy. I want a guy to want me and viceversa. Only fair for both of us. I'm a bit sad, but it will be better tomorrow, I am sure, I'll join my single friends and have a big outing, haha! Link to post Share on other sites
Author candie13 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 lovely quote, in your signature, too! I sure believe in it 100% ! Link to post Share on other sites
pbjbear Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 this guy is an idiot...you dodged a bullet Link to post Share on other sites
Author candie13 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 this guy is an idiot...you dodged a bullet I am not sure I understand his reasons, for there must be some reasons. Maybe he was afraid I might ask something... i just don't understand what I can potentially ask for, he's already invited and paid for dinners so many times... so the only plausible hypothesis is that he is not ready. In which case, he did right not to go out with me on St.V, but handled it horribly. Sad, because I sure as hell wasn't expecting any "let's be bf / gf" talk. Anyway, bygone, "could have, would have, should have", I'll most likely never know. Thank you for your support . Link to post Share on other sites
crude Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 Yes! He will stick around if he likes you! So next time keep the lid on the cookie jar for a month or two and if he's still around he probably likes YOU, and isn't there just for a steady lay. It's not a bullet proof strategy but I promise you it helps big time. If a woman doesn't enjoy sex but considers it a cookie jar that she opens and closes at will while manipulating a man, if he had any sense, he'd be long gone. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
pbjbear Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 If a woman doesn't enjoy sex but considers it a cookie jar that she opens and closes at will while manipulating a man, if he had any sense, he'd be long gone. It has nothing to do with liking sex. If men didnt USE women as sex objects to be discarded away, us women wouldnt need to use sex as a manipulation tool 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author candie13 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 If a woman doesn't enjoy sex but considers it a cookie jar that she opens and closes at will while manipulating a man, if he had any sense, he'd be long gone. It's not the case, here, no manipulations to get sex or to get anything else. Or at least, not from my side. Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 If a woman doesn't enjoy sex but considers it a cookie jar that she opens and closes at will while manipulating a man, if he had any sense, he'd be long gone. It was a figure of speech that I used in one of my replys. I don't know why you're turning this into a sexual manipulation thread. Link to post Share on other sites
Author candie13 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. It's obvious that this observation stroke a nerve, since that is the only detail that stayed with her, out of everything you said . Link to post Share on other sites
runningfar Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 Somebody certainly did dodge a bullet here, it seems... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author candie13 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 Somebody certainly did dodge a bullet here, it seems... c'mon, you're on a forum, a public site, make the sh*t hit the fan, name names here, tell it like it is ! My best friend thinks I am overreacting, there must be men who think I am honestly crazy for making such a big deal out of this. But I knew it... I swear to God, I felt it. I told Radu on a previous thread that 13 was my lucky number and that on 13, cycles either ended or started for me. Turns out no.13 stroke again, here, hehe! Link to post Share on other sites
Bristolius Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 c'mon, you're on a forum, a public site, make the sh*t hit the fan, name names here, tell it like it is ! My best friend thinks I am overreacting, there must be men who think I am honestly crazy for making such a big deal out of this. But I knew it... I swear to God, I felt it. I told Radu on a previous thread that 13 was my lucky number and that on 13, cycles either ended or started for me. Turns out no.13 stroke again, here, hehe! You're in big trouble. It's 2013 for another ten and a half months. Seriously though, I can't tell. Is it all over for sure? Link to post Share on other sites
Author candie13 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 13 is my lucky number, remember? It'll be great!!! I dunno, B, it's 3 in the morning here. It all makes sense to me... I don't want a commitment phobic near me, I dated one for 7 years. At this time of night, I just don't see a way out Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 It has nothing to do with liking sex. If men didnt USE women as sex objects to be discarded away, us women wouldnt need to use sex as a manipulation tool 2 wrongs don't make a right. Don't start the " If there was no x there wouldn't be any y " It's wrong to use some one. It's wrong to manipulate some one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author candie13 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 2 wrongs don't make a right. Don't start the " If there was no x there wouldn't be any y " It's wrong to use some one. It's wrong to manipulate some one. K, I tend to agree with you, but I wonder, I just wonder if that is not naive idea of the world and of love. I wonder if you really love someone, you wouldn't use everything you can, shake your arms and legs up and down to make sure they keep their interest in you, no matter the cost... I wonder if it's not all fair, in love and war Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 I feel liks sh*t too. My ex is going to be partying in Melbourne, Australia, where I am sure he will hook up with some stupid sL8t. I still hate and want to kill any girl who ge hooks up with. At least you were not madly in love with youe ex! I love mine as much as I love my own parents and can still not accept that we will not be together again, because the pain is too enormous to process. My ex and I have parted ways for a couple of weeks now, and have not seen each other for a month because he is on a road trip with his dad. I have still ben referring to him as my boyfriend on here because I am so in love with him and ... totally love and adore him. ......Best of luck in moving on, your not the only one feeling like cr@p. We will be okay, next Valentines day!:lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
CptObvious Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 It has nothing to do with liking sex. If men didnt USE women as sex objects to be discarded away, us women wouldnt need to use sex as a manipulation tool You got your dinner and you got to ride in a lexus lfa. Don't bitch about a fair trade. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 K, I tend to agree with you, but I wonder, I just wonder if that is not naive idea of the world and of love. I wonder if you really love someone, you wouldn't use everything you can, shake your arms and legs up and down to make sure they keep their interest in you, no matter the cost... I wonder if it's not all fair, in love and war In a truly perfectly ideal healthy relationship, neither party feels the necessity to use anything for any reason against the other person. Unfortunately for all of us, this is the rarest of all treasures. Some one exists that will love Person A for all person A's qualities and faults. Person A will love person B just the same. Usually there are more than a few people who are compatible with you in this way. The hard part is weeding through the ones that are not to find the ones that are. Look for the red flags, call them as soon as you see them, and do your best to look out for YOU. It's really all you can do in life. All you can do is look out for you / your closest loved ones, and you can't control or influence (to a degree) other peoples thoughts, behaviors, and actions. Too bad I am unable to follow my own advice lol. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author candie13 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 oh, Leigh, I am so sorry to hear this! I don't really understand what's going on with me, I got really mad when that happened, but then, I just accepted that he slid away... hence my comment to Keenly's post about love and war: does the world (and love) belong to those who play fair, or to those who play really hard, everything they have and are dead bound on winning? Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 Ouch. I really wish some of you gals on here would be a little more stingy with the poon. If you want a guy to stick around you gotta use your feminine guile. Not really. I met my ex a week before Valentines day, and had sex on the 4th ish date. We were together two years. If a guy is into you, he will not leave if you have sex the first hour you meet him. If a guy is really interested in you, he will not care if you just met a few days before Valentines day! He would still get you flowers at least or want to see you on it! My boyfriend just picked some flowers from someones garden and came and got me, to spend the night together. ...After only a few days of meeting me! Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 ***** EX boyfriend... ugh I still call him my boyfriend by defult! Now I have to see my extended family tomorrow and will have to lie when they ask how my "boyfriend" is:mad: Link to post Share on other sites
Author candie13 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 In a truly perfectly ideal healthy relationship, neither party feels the necessity to use anything for any reason against the other person. The hard part is weeding through the ones that are not to find the ones that are. Look for the red flags, call them as soon as you see them, and do your best to look out for YOU. . That's partially the thing. But not everything. It's also about choosing and going after it. You can spend your time "weeding" but at some point, you feel a certain chemistry with a person. Then comes the playing, the testing. But if you just don't know, I don't think your partner will stick around that much longer. We all crave to be loved and accepted. Us / me and no one else. without this sense of individuality, or utter uniqueness, can we talk about love? If my-soon-to-be-ex felt I was very special, would he have still not wanted to see me, despite or because of or irrelevant if it was St.V? And if I felt that he was really the one, would I not have found the force to say "ok, it's too soon, I'll give you more time, just love me / stay/ don't go"? Link to post Share on other sites
Author candie13 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 or maybe he was only very sure I will stay / not make such a big deal out of it, just like I sort of expect him to come back... I know better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author candie13 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 ***** EX boyfriend... ugh I still call him my boyfriend by defult! Now I have to see my extended family tomorrow and will have to lie when they ask how my "boyfriend" is:mad: Leigh, please, promise here and now, that you will tell to ALL OF YOUR extended family that you and that fellow are through. PLEASE!!! You are doing yourself a huge harm by insisting with this story which ended. the healing can only start after one accepted, in their heart and in their mind, that it is over. Please start !!! Link to post Share on other sites
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