Author anakin_16 Posted June 8, 2013 Author Posted June 8, 2013 hi guys, i have an update.. hopefully it'll be my last ...i've been ignoring and staying away from them.. but of course there's always someone telling me news about them.. i have since told that friend of mine to stop telling me stories about them, because i just don't care anymore, and they have to settle their own relationship... turns out he's here..and the girl is just bat crazy,,,i guess he promised her a lot of things...divorcing his wife, etc..introducing her to his mom through skype..even leaving his stuff at her place,,,when he went home to his country he never ever called her and she realized that all of his stuff that he left was disposable unimportant things, he didn't even filed for a divorce yet...that prompted her to actually follow him and confront him, asking him did he sleep with his wife (i mean really?)...but i guess it worked, because he's here and she seems happy.. all i can say now is that i'm glad i'm not her...and definitely i'm staying away from him and her, hopefully that girl just stay away from me ..this experience has taught me to Never ever play with fire and don't ever2 mess around and date a married man...NEVER AGAIN.. thank you guys for your reply and support...it's been really helpful during this process..i'm just glad that it's finally over and hopefully this is my last update... 1
Author anakin_16 Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 (edited) Hi guys it's been a while, but i have some bad news..that guy applied to my office again. This time he's serious about it, i have since told my boss about my affair with him...but as we are a new company, we need as many jobs as possible... He asked my boss for a position here at my office and he's also bringing jobs and client for us...he will be moving here to work again...i'm just really tired of this guy! What does he want..he knows that i work there, but he's still applying..i just don't want him to ruin my life again and i don't want to quit my job... I just hope that my boss won't hire him! It's like he keeps popping into my life and ruining it..a past that haunts me all the time....what do u think i should do guys??? Edited August 28, 2013 by anakin_16
Author anakin_16 Posted October 1, 2013 Author Posted October 1, 2013 Hi guys, i'm feeling a bit down lately..i hope you guys can help me and make me feel better .. i know i have said that i won't be updating again but it's been hard.. he has since came back here and he's staying here for good. and he wanted to get work from my office,,if he's here then that means he's left his wife to be with his girlfriend.. i don't know why, but i just felt like i'm not good enough because he didn't choose me, he chose her. i keep thinking that there's something wrong with me and i'm ugly..it's just a destructive feeling for me.. i just don't want to feel like this anymore..but it's just keeps coming.. and then he's here to be with his girlfriend left his wife and kids (btw his son has a heart condition)..i can't take it anymore..so i have resigned again from my office, i just don't want to be in the same business with him anymore. eliminate more chances to meet him and his girlfriend..because truthfully i don't think i have the heart to do it.. i need your support guys, is there something wrong with me? i hope you guys will reply because i need the mental support...thanks
AnnaAnna Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I am so sorry for everything you're going through. Please, don't be so hard on yourself. It's not your fault. You are not ugly and you are too good of a person to be with a jerk like this. He doesn't deserve your love. You should really try to forget about him and try to move on with your life. He will never be faithful to you or any other woman so why would you want to be with somebody like that anyway?! Stay strong and you should try NC with him. Might be the best decision for you. Take care!
The Way I Am Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 You don't know that he actually divorced his wife. The women he's with could just be spineless enough that she's willing to accept it or gullible enough that he convinced her he's divorced when he's not. Or maybe he did leave his wife, because he considers that woman his perfect partner, soul mate, or whatever. But he's a piece of sh*t. Do you really want a piece of sh*t thinking that you're the perfect person for him? What would that say about you? She sounds really pathetic. Flying out of the country to confront the scum bag who lied about being married and take him back with her. She must have zero self respect. My guess is that if he is divorced, it's because when his wife found out about the cheating, she dropped him. He didn't choose to be with that other woman. He just ended up with her by default, because she's the only one who would still take him. Don't be surprised or flattered if he starts trying to start something up with you again.
Author anakin_16 Posted October 2, 2013 Author Posted October 2, 2013 I am so sorry for everything you're going through. Please, don't be so hard on yourself. It's not your fault. You are not ugly and you are too good of a person to be with a jerk like this. He doesn't deserve your love. You should really try to forget about him and try to move on with your life. He will never be faithful to you or any other woman so why would you want to be with somebody like that anyway?! Stay strong and you should try NC with him. Might be the best decision for you. Take care! Thanks AnnaAnna...i haven't contacted him, and i will never. it's always him that keeps contacting me..i just hope this time he doesn't..you made me feel a lot better..
Author anakin_16 Posted October 2, 2013 Author Posted October 2, 2013 You don't know that he actually divorced his wife. The women he's with could just be spineless enough that she's willing to accept it or gullible enough that he convinced her he's divorced when he's not. Or maybe he did leave his wife, because he considers that woman his perfect partner, soul mate, or whatever. But he's a piece of sh*t. Do you really want a piece of sh*t thinking that you're the perfect person for him? What would that say about you? She sounds really pathetic. Flying out of the country to confront the scum bag who lied about being married and take him back with her. She must have zero self respect. My guess is that if he is divorced, it's because when his wife found out about the cheating, she dropped him. He didn't choose to be with that other woman. He just ended up with her by default, because she's the only one who would still take him. Don't be surprised or flattered if he starts trying to start something up with you again. Thank you..what you said made me feel so much better.. i don't deserve this, i deserve to be with a better person.. it's just hard sometime for me, maybe because it's a small industry of work that's why i keep hearing news about him...i just hope i don't ever feel this way again...
The Way I Am Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Glad we could help you feel a bit better. You may be hearing about him so much because he's purposefully making it happen. It's not like he's keeping his distance by trying to get a job at your company. If he was committed to having a healthy relationship with his new gf, the last place he would be looking for a job is the company of another woman he was playing at the same time. If he comes sniffing around again, which I suspect he will, ask yourself whether you really want a guy like that or if you're just looking to "prove" to yourself that you're good enough to get him. Because there's nothing good about a sleaze ball wanting you. It's more of an insult really, because it means he thinks you're weak and don't respect yourself enough to want someone better. Prove that you're too good for him by not wasting any more thoughts or time.
Author anakin_16 Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 Glad we could help you feel a bit better. You may be hearing about him so much because he's purposefully making it happen. It's not like he's keeping his distance by trying to get a job at your company. If he was committed to having a healthy relationship with his new gf, the last place he would be looking for a job is the company of another woman he was playing at the same time. If he comes sniffing around again, which I suspect he will, ask yourself whether you really want a guy like that or if you're just looking to "prove" to yourself that you're good enough to get him. Because there's nothing good about a sleaze ball wanting you. It's more of an insult really, because it means he thinks you're weak and don't respect yourself enough to want someone better. Prove that you're too good for him by not wasting any more thoughts or time. Thank you so much for your advice. that's what i'm afraid off because if i look back he keeps on coming back to bother me, and i'm always to weak to ignore it.. but i don't think this time it will be the same..he really crossed the line..and i hope his gf doesn't come sniffing me around again! she dragged me before she could drag me again..
The Way I Am Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Stay strong, stay away from him. And if she bothers you, you can tell her to leave you out of their business, because you want nothing to do with him.
Author anakin_16 Posted October 5, 2013 Author Posted October 5, 2013 thank you for your help ...i hope one day i won't feel like this anymore.. 1
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