kaizor31 Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 I got to know this girl when i was in my previous company and while i was interested in knowing more about her, i was about to quit and she was taking over my duties so i did not feel it was appropriate and i left it at that. But a few months after i left, i started texting her and we started to chat more and more.Her response has been pretty ok, she asks a LOT of questions about me and seems generally interested to keep the conversation going(our conversations can go on for hours). She has also initiated conversations a few times. From what i observed while i was still in the company, she does not appear to be such a friendly person in public.So after a few weeks of chatting and after she ask me about what type of movies i liked and me asking her back(she said she is ok with any type of movie), i decided to ask her out for a movie. To be honest i was quite hopeful but to my surprise she said it was not a movie she is interested in watching and when i suggested another movie, she said she was busy with work and could not spare time to come out. Although i do know that she is a bit of a workaholic ( eg. working at home on holidays), i am still skeptical on whether it is her subtle way to telling me that she is just trying to be friends and want me to leave it at that. So is she interested or being just friendly? My sincere appreciation for any helpful advice
Apolodor Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Well, if she spent all that time texting you she must have some form of interest in you. However, inviting a woman to a movie on a first date is a bit unusual.... that is, if you are not still in junior high. Ask her out for a meal or to do something interesting in a weekend (like a day trip to some nice place). The fact that she tried to find excuses for not going to the movie with you might simply indicate that that is not her type of thing. On the other hand, it is also possible that she lost any romantic interest in you. The only way to find out is to get back to her with an invitation for a proper date (meal or day trip).
Author kaizor31 Posted February 21, 2013 Author Posted February 21, 2013 Well, we are both working adults and the reason why i asked her out for a movie was because like i mentioned, we were talking about the type of movies we like to watch. But looking back, ya movie for a first date is probably too big of a commitment. True, i guess the only way to find out would be to ask her out for another date. Thanks for the help.
MidwestUSA Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 The reason a movie is not a good choice is that you have to sit in silence, and will not learn anything more about each other. It could be pretty uncomfortable. Just MHO.
wahine Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I see three possible scenarios: 1) She is not interested. If it were me and I were interested in a guy who asked me out to a movie, but for whatever reason I disliked the idea of that particular movie (or movies) enough to decline, I'd suggest a substitute activity for a date that we could both enjoy instead. 2) She is interested, but she's not too bright, and either didn't get the fact that you were asking her out, or she hates going to the movies that much. 3) She is interested, but you didn't make it obvious enough that you meant a "date," so when you mentioned seeing two films that she wasn't interested in seeing, she said no and left it at that (I find this one the least likely).
todreaminblue Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I got to know this girl when i was in my previous company and while i was interested in knowing more about her, i was about to quit and she was taking over my duties so i did not feel it was appropriate and i left it at that. But a few months after i left, i started texting her and we started to chat more and more.Her response has been pretty ok, she asks a LOT of questions about me and seems generally interested to keep the conversation going(our conversations can go on for hours). She has also initiated conversations a few times. From what i observed while i was still in the company, she does not appear to be such a friendly person in public.So after a few weeks of chatting and after she ask me about what type of movies i liked and me asking her back(she said she is ok with any type of movie), i decided to ask her out for a movie. To be honest i was quite hopeful but to my surprise she said it was not a movie she is interested in watching and when i suggested another movie, she said she was busy with work and could not spare time to come out. Although i do know that she is a bit of a workaholic ( eg. working at home on holidays), i am still skeptical on whether it is her subtle way to telling me that she is just trying to be friends and want me to leave it at that. So is she interested or being just friendly? My sincere appreciation for any helpful advice if i like a guy i feel you wouldnt care so much about the type of movie, you could try it , because you never know it may turn out to be the best movie you have seen all year, if you watch it......i try things i dont like or know....food , music, and i draw an opinion after i know what its about...could always discuss reasons why i didnt liek it...or did like it after so yeah conversation starter....i would say she is either nervous unsure or maybe she isnt interested , playing games....who knows.....ask her again but not to a movie......its the only way to know for sure..ask straight up...deb
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