Drseussgrrl Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 So a few weeks ago I was at a bar downtown for a birthday with a group of girlfriends. Just the usual shenanigans. Halfway through the night, this nicely dressed supa-fly brotha walks in - he happens to know the birthday girl. I, for some reason, am immediately drawn to him. We strike up a conversation and he offers to buy me a drink. We end up chatting for the majority of the rest of the night. Me, having reached a bit beyond my limit, take his hat off his head, put it on mine and give him a big smooch before giving him my number. Yeah - supa flirt. He makes sure to help me into my coat and asks me to text him when I get home to let him know I'm safe. The next day he texts and asks me to come to a wine-tasting event where he works (he's a sales manager for a big venue in the city). He's working the event technically, but encourages me to bring a friend. Leading up to this night, he has emailed me every single day, generous with his compliments, and even asks me out for a "proper" date for the following week. The night of the wine event I get the opportunity to speak to him a bit more, which is great, and he invites me to the after party. He's engaging and intelligent and we have a lot in common. He's a total gentleman and makes sure to introduce me to his friends and coworkers. Around 10pm he tells me he has to leave. I'm a little taken aback as it's a Friday night. Then, he discloses that he has a son that he has joint custody of, and that he has to get back to the sitter. I had no idea, but take it in stride. I find it rather endearing that he is so involved in his son's life, and glad to hear that he's a very committed father. Big points. Anyway, our first "proper" date is tonight. He gets free tickets to a lot of events in the city, so he's invited me to the Washington ballet (we had talked about the fact that I love the ballet). He's picking me up and made sure I know that it's going to be raining. There is a basketball game on tonight that I really want to see also, so he's making sure we get to a bar after that plays all of my Alma mater's games. I mean this guy has thought of everything. He's a man with a plan. Thoughtful. Has stayed in touch consistently since we met, and we're taking our time getting to know one another. I can't tell you how nice it is to have met someone who KNOWS HOW TO DATE. Love it. 5
Treasa Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 So a few weeks ago I was at a bar downtown for a birthday with a group of girlfriends. Just the usual shenanigans. Halfway through the night, this nicely dressed supa-fly brotha walks in - he happens to know the birthday girl. I, for some reason, am immediately drawn to him. We strike up a conversation and he offers to buy me a drink. We end up chatting for the majority of the rest of the night. Me, having reached a bit beyond my limit, take his hat off his head, put it on mine and give him a big smooch before giving him my number. Yeah - supa flirt. He makes sure to help me into my coat and asks me to text him when I get home to let him know I'm safe. The next day he texts and asks me to come to a wine-tasting event where he works (he's a sales manager for a big venue in the city). He's working the event technically, but encourages me to bring a friend. Leading up to this night, he has emailed me every single day, generous with his compliments, and even asks me out for a "proper" date for the following week. The night of the wine event I get the opportunity to speak to him a bit more, which is great, and he invites me to the after party. He's engaging and intelligent and we have a lot in common. He's a total gentleman and makes sure to introduce me to his friends and coworkers. Around 10pm he tells me he has to leave. I'm a little taken aback as it's a Friday night. Then, he discloses that he has a son that he has joint custody of, and that he has to get back to the sitter. I had no idea, but take it in stride. I find it rather endearing that he is so involved in his son's life, and glad to hear that he's a very committed father. Big points. Anyway, our first "proper" date is tonight. He gets free tickets to a lot of events in the city, so he's invited me to the Washington ballet (we had talked about the fact that I love the ballet). He's picking me up and made sure I know that it's going to be raining. There is a basketball game on tonight that I really want to see also, so he's making sure we get to a bar after that plays all of my Alma mater's games. I mean this guy has thought of everything. He's a man with a plan. Thoughtful. Has stayed in touch consistently since we met, and we're taking our time getting to know one another. I can't tell you how nice it is to have met someone who KNOWS HOW TO DATE. Love it. Awwww!!! I love it, too! Good luck! He sounds awesome. Oh, and you totally are a supa-flirt. 1
colombiana28 Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 ughhhh can you make a million clones of him for the rest of us
Author Drseussgrrl Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 ughhhh can you make a million clones of him for the rest of us Dude - trust that I've had my experience over the last year and a half with all the other little boys out there that think a "Wut r u up to tonite" text think that's planning a date. I mean really - makes my heart melt. NOT.
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 Have you spoken to your friend about this guy a little bit for some background info? You have an opportunity to learn a little bit more about him than if you just met him on your own. So nicely dressed supa-fly brotha (haven't heard that one in a while) man who seems charming, intelligent, put together...that works in a big venue in the city, that goes to wine tasting events and gets free tickets to a lot of events. Also works in "sales" so you know he's got good people skills and rapport building. So he's basically got a convenient setup to meet A LOT of women...especially those late 20's and beyond ladies who've graduated to wine? I'm not saying this is a bad guy, or he's not genuine...plus he's got a kid already...but just keep your eyes open. He's playing all his cards right and doing the whole "total package" thing, and he seems to know at least a little bit what he's doing on the superficial level as far as dating...that takes experience in the dating world, not just magic...like some guys are good at this and others are not, that's just not the case...sure some guys have a knack for naturally charming, but which guys do those tend to be from your experience?... and also most guys aren't going to have a convenient setup like that to literally wine and dine women...so he may be in the business for the added perks if you know what I mean. I know that all kinda means nothing to you for now...and I'm not trying to burst your bubble, but I am saying watch out for the "playa"...if everything is going a little too great and perfect it might be a little bit smoke and mirrors while the real man remains unseen. I just have a knowledge of these men, so just be careful...read between the lines, ask the hard questions, get to know him...if you let him lead and be in control in his own comfort zone he can easily swoon you IMO. So before you jump on the "knows how to date" wagon, realize the guys that "know how to date" typically are good with the ladies and have that experience, they've basically just made the mistakes the average joe still makes because he's learned how treat a lady. Which I do believe is important, don't get me wrong, but watch out for mr perfect and flawless, things may not always be what they seem. Hopefully he's just a genuine guy, who's really interested and feels a great connection, therefore just making the effort and just happens to take pride in himself and keeps his whole little package tight and together. Not because you're #12456 on the hit list who's he's going to quickly swoon over...all the while giving off the impression he's in no rush, he's just trying to get to know you. I know I know...just enjoy in the moment...enjoy it...you can do that too though I genuinely feel bad for women though, there are men out there who know how to run a good game and it's hard to tell what is real and what is just part of this refined and developed womanizing skills. But then again if he's that good, you might not care anyway even it's temporary, works that way too. 1
Author Drseussgrrl Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 Have you spoken to your friend about this guy a little bit for some background info? You have an opportunity to learn a little bit more about him than if you just met him on your own. So nicely dressed supa-fly brotha (haven't heard that one in a while) man who seems charming, intelligent, put together...that works in a big venue in the city, that goes to wine tasting events and gets free tickets to a lot of events. Also works in "sales" so you know he's got good people skills and rapport building. So he's basically got a convenient setup to meet A LOT of women...especially those late 20's and beyond ladies who've graduated to wine? I'm not saying this is a bad guy, or he's not genuine...plus he's got a kid already...but just keep your eyes open. He's playing all his cards right and doing the whole "total package" thing, and he seems to know at least a little bit what he's doing on the superficial level as far as dating...that takes experience in the dating world, not just magic...like some guys are good at this and others are not, that's just not the case...sure some guys have a knack for naturally charming, but which guys do those tend to be from your experience?... and also most guys aren't going to have a convenient setup like that to literally wine and dine women...so he may be in the business for the added perks if you know what I mean. I know that all kinda means nothing to you for now...and I'm not trying to burst your bubble, but I am saying watch out for the "playa"...if everything is going a little too great and perfect it might be a little bit smoke and mirrors while the real man remains unseen. I just have a knowledge of these men, so just be careful...read between the lines, ask the hard questions, get to know him...if you let him lead and be in control in his own comfort zone he can easily swoon you IMO. So before you jump on the "knows how to date" wagon, realize the guys that "know how to date" typically are good with the ladies and have that experience, they've basically just made the mistakes the average joe still makes because he's learned how treat a lady. Which I do believe is important, don't get me wrong, but watch out for mr perfect and flawless, things may not always be what they seem. Hopefully he's just a genuine guy, who's really interested and feels a great connection, therefore just making the effort and just happens to take pride in himself and keeps his whole little package tight and together. Not because you're #12456 on the hit list who's he's going to quickly swoon over...all the while giving off the impression he's in no rush, he's just trying to get to know you. I know I know...just enjoy in the moment...enjoy it...you can do that too though I genuinely feel bad for women though, there are men out there who know how to run a good game and it's hard to tell what is real and what is just part of this refined and developed womanizing skills. But then again if he's that good, you might not care anyway even it's temporary, works that way too. Yeah I understand all of this - and trust that it ain't my first rodeo so I'm nobody's fool. He's actually a pretty humble dude and admitted that he was rather afraid to tell me about his custody sitch, just because a lot of women view it as a deal-breaker. In my experience though, and while you may be right, the "playas" haven't paid attention to my likes and planned dates around it. They may have the money and forethought to take me to a nice restaurant, sure. But he planned this date with just ME in mind. Down to watching my alma mater get smacked down in this basketball game. Truth be told - he comes across to me as a "nice guy" who texts a lot that would be a turn off to other women who like more of a challenge. But me personally, I love it. 2
mesmerized Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 Im confused. In another thread you said that you have a boyfriend that digs your body??
Author Drseussgrrl Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 Yeah - same dude. The use of the word "boyfriend" was for posting brevity. But he's told me that he thinks my body is "bangin'".
animalover Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 I am confused... so you like this guy... but you go to a threesome with other people??? I am sure he would be delighted to know that you are doing that while dating him....
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