sky_18 Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 I broke up with my ex girlfriend about 10 months ago.We broke up beacuse of reasons beyond our control. We tried to get back two times. I was really hurt so I wasn't capable of thinking normally, and I became the opposite of myself. Instead of a fun, confident, cool charmer that I used to be I became a whiny c*nt. I just couldn't control myself. I thought I lost her completely. Then we didn't talk for a long time, and she sent me a message on Facebook saying that she wants to be my friend etc. But she also showed some signs of attraction (but they weren't so big as I thought). I admitted I still have some feelings but I didn't get a much positive response. Few days later I did something wrong and she told me that she understands me and that I need to find someone else and forget about her. She also wanted to friendzone me, but I didn't want that so I declined. I'm trying to move on in life and I'm really enjoying it, but my best friend still talks to her quite often on FB (I didn't mention him earlier, but he has a really important role in all this). She once told me that he makes her laugh just like I used to when we were together. It really bugs me, since they could be developing a connection. He told me that I should trust him and that he would never hook up with her, because she meant a lot to me. But she seems to think differently (I don't know if it's really like that, she just acts like she likes him a bit). I'm actually moving on to fix myself, and if possible create a new chance to reconnect with her in the future (not making false hopes), but I'm afraid if they hook up she won't be able to see me like that. Could that really happen? I mean I heard the saying "If you made someone fall in love with you before, you can do it again" so I don't know what to do or to trust him. I know it's a strange question but I really like her, so if anyone has something helpful, please share it with me
TaraMaiden Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 "Insanely Complicated"...? No, I don't think so.... I broke up with my ex girlfriend about 10 months ago.We broke up beacuse of reasons beyond our control. Hmmm.. doubtful. What were they? The only reasons beyond your control would probably be death. Everything else is manageable.... We tried to get back two times. I was really hurt so I wasn't capable of thinking normally, and I became the opposite of myself. Instead of a fun, confident, cool charmer that I used to be I became a whiny c*nt. I just couldn't control myself. I thought I lost her completely. Then we didn't talk for a long time, and she sent me a message on Facebook saying that she wants to be my friend etc. But she also showed some signs of attraction (but they weren't so big as I thought). I admitted I still have some feelings but I didn't get a much positive response. Few days later I did something wrong and she told me that she understands me and that I need to find someone else and forget about her. She also wanted to friendzone me, but I didn't want that so I declined. I'm trying to move on in life and I'm really enjoying it, but my best friend still talks to her quite often on FB (I didn't mention him earlier, but he has a really important role in all this). She once told me that he makes her laugh just like I used to when we were together. It really bugs me, since they could be developing a connection. He told me that I should trust him and that he would never hook up with her, because she meant a lot to me. But she seems to think differently (I don't know if it's really like that, she just acts like she likes him a bit). I'm actually moving on to fix myself, and if possible create a new chance to reconnect with her in the future (not making false hopes), but I'm afraid if they hook up she won't be able to see me like that. Could that really happen? I mean I heard the saying "If you made someone fall in love with you before, you can do it again" so I don't know what to do or to trust him. I know it's a strange question but I really like her, so if anyone has something helpful, please share it with me Helpful? Yeah. True? Ditto. Will you like it? No. Back off. She's your ex. She can do whatever she wants, and I hate to tell you this - but so can he. He really shouldn't go making promises like that, particularly as he will not, in all probability be able to keep them. Why should he not date her? She's single, so is he. You cannot expect to control anything here, make demands or requests and see them complied with, simply because of how you feel. She doesn't feel the same way. You acted like a jerk, now suck it up. It's over, finished. you should block her on FB and do yourself a favour? Block him too. And tell him why.... All this 'honour among bro's: Drop it. It's BS. All well and good, until something like this crops up, then hormones win every time. Let them be. Learn how to treat a lady from the get-go, move on and put it down to experience.... See? Not 'complicated' at all.
Author sky_18 Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 (edited) I may have used the wrong term "beyond our control", but it was because she couldn't focus on her responsibilities and she had to cut it off until school ended (I found this out a lot later than I should have). As for the situation, this is just the shortest way possible of writing down the whole story, you don't know the details. And you got me wrong, I treated her nicely and wasn't a jerk at all, we had a "friend and a lover at the same time" relationship. As for her and my friend, it's possible they could hook up, or maybe not since her best friend is my best friend's ex, but you never know what could happen, that's life. Anyway, you think there's no chance of fixing the rel. at all? Edited February 13, 2013 by sky_18
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