Debbie2508 Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 I am going to leave my ex some cards and flowers. I know this will be important to her and I feel bad leaving her high-and-dry on V-Day. I too have been NC with my ex for 2 weeks and I really am over her. I prefer the single life myself. Why are you gonna send your ex flowers and cards?? I just hope she's as over you,as you are over her!! Talk about mixed messages
GG3 Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 If you are over it and it wouldn't affect you then you wouldn't be thinking of doing this and you wouldn't need outside opinion on what to do. Posting on this board shows you care more than you think.
Own Worst Enemy Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 what part of cards and chocolates on v day say "i'm over you" ? it looks a little bit like a troll and it smells a little bit like a troll.
Author OuterLimits Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 Lol Thanks for the replies everyone! When I say I'm over her I mean I accept and will be ok if she really wants me out of her life. I was actually thinking of sending the gift anonymously and writing something humorous that would make her smile or feel good. The reason I'm still trying is because this was all my fault and not because the connection was just not there. Feel me? I also have to agree that this act is to show that I do appreciate her even though she would still not want me anymore. Since I hurt her...I'm going to make her feel good now and leave it at that. I actually feel improved since a little after the break up! I started working out, being more socially aware, maintaining positive vibes and restraining negativity. If I were to get back with her now I would definitely not be blinded by love again
Author OuterLimits Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 What I mean is that If I were to get back with her, I would not fall back on 'status quo' and instead I will bring in the relationship this new perspective of mine and continue to improve throughout life, resulting in a better relationship. If she takes me back, I will not hurt her. If she won't take me back then I will love her platonically and be there for her as a friend.
TrueLoveSeeker Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 At this point man, do whatever you feel is necessary. If she rejects you, know that it is time to let go forever. If not, well than good luck. Your chances are slim but you won't know unless you try i guess.
AlexfromBoston Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Why are you gonna send your ex flowers and cards?? I just hope she's as over you,as you are over her!! Talk about mixed messages I am very happy with my the single life; however, that said, I was also very happy with my ex. I guess I am trying to rehab our failed relationship in a sense, but if she declines, I am not going to be too bent out of shape over it. I don't need a women in my life to make me happy...although I would prefer to spend it with a nice women.
veggirl Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Leave her alone! you wanted a non committed relationship and now you are acting like you've suddenly done a 180 and are ready for her? You don't know what you want at all. You only want her now because you don't have her. leave her alone...
GG3 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 You really played with her emotions so that you could feel more secure. That's not healthy. If you are going to send or give her this gift, I think you need to come clean and be REAL. No more games. How can she trust that you won't play another game once you start feeling insecure again?
TaraMaiden Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Leave her alone! you wanted a non committed relationship and now you are acting like you've suddenly done a 180 and are ready for her? You don't know what you want at all. You only want her now because you don't have her. leave her alone... You really played with her emotions so that you could feel more secure. That's not healthy. If you are going to send or give her this gift, I think you need to come clean and be REAL. No more games. How can she trust that you won't play another game once you start feeling insecure again? (Are you guys talking to AlexfromBoston - Contributor - or OuterLimits - OP....?) Either way, I think you're right!!
Author OuterLimits Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 (edited) I feel I should show her how I really feel about her because I made the mistake of hurting her. If she broke up with me because I hurt her and then I leave her be then I think that would show her that I really don't care about her. But if I show her that I do care about her before I do leave her be then hopefully, before it's too late, she will love me again. Like I said before...I never stopped loving her. Not before or after. I was trying to see if there was real true love...call it wishy washy but I feel like I need to know before I can bring the love up another level. It seems as though I got what I didn't hope for. Anyways, I didn't leave a card and just left the chocolates anonymously at her place. No response so far...but I feel good knowing that I put in the effort. Edited February 14, 2013 by OuterLimits
TaraMaiden Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 see? I told you you'd do it. I told you that you couldn't resist. I was right. Your desire to connect with her was greater than your respect for her wish to be left alone. That's Ego talking. You are sooo hoping she will know precisely who they're from. And even if she is wondering, you are messing with her mind. Wrong move. Sorry, but with everyone here telling you no, you still did it. That's just foolish and inconsiderate. So you got your way..... Slow clap, buddy.
Author OuterLimits Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 (edited) Lol It's not like I called her or anything. I just want her to feel appreciated and loved without intruding her space. Besides, I still have all of valentines day to see. Edited February 14, 2013 by OuterLimits
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