lisaij Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 Hello, i am new to this forum and i am in hope to find some answers!!! LONG, but PLEASE hear me out! Sorry if my english is bad, it's not my first language. So, let me give you a little background about myself. I fall in and out of "love" very easily. I may say that he is perfect yada yada yada...then when i meet someone "better" i fall out of love and go fall in love with the other guy. I get attached easily. It is usually the guys that are different, as in they don't really flirt with me and what not. I am very emotional and i get very attached to people easily. I feel like this guy is part of that routine. I don't even know him, and i am desperatly trying to hang out to get to know him. Now let me give you the background of the story, lol. I started working at a Yogurt place a month ago. The fell for the only male employee. He is very cute, but super shy! He is 21 years old, has a femenine side to him, and i am 18, more of a tomboyish, loud girl. He is the 'hipster' type and i have gotten into the music that he listens to and what not. I have worked with him only 3 times. During those 3 times that i worked with him, we got to know each other a lot. We laughed and stuff, and it wasn't really awkward. I added him on Facebook. The thing is, he is about to quit soon. And since i work the afternoon shifts and he works the night, i only get to say hi and that's it. But I have to be the one always greeting him. if i don't he will just ignore me. I hate that. I am not used to chasing after guys. (well not like this) Maybe this is why i am more passionate about him. Well, i don't want to just talk on Facebook (which we don't, just like a few of our statuses and commenting on some) i want to hang out!!! But he is so shy and awkward, i just don't know what to do! I also feel like i've hinted him that i like him. but i am a natural flirt, so everyone might think that. I feel like he can only talk to me if we work together, and that outside of work, he does not know me. We had a meeting at work, and we didn't even make eye contact. He was sitting right in front of me. Yet he seems like the weird, cool hipster that i got to know at work (and that shows on Facebook) He is so quite though. Through Facebook, he invited me to go to an event (his favorite band) in about two months. I want to go, but none of my friends like this music. I kinda (ahem...REALLY) want to go with him. But i have no idea how to approach this. I sound like a desperate chick, i understand, and maybe this is nothing but lust. But i do want to get to know him. Sorry it was long, i tried to just list things out. I just can't seem to find the answers. So basically, how do i hang out with a guy who is super shy and awkward without looking so desperate?
SJC2008 Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 Well he asked you out to that concert in a couple months so that's a good sign. Tell him "Yeah I wanna go but it's while from no so what are we gonna do before then?". If he's too shy to take that cue you're gonna have to throw yourself at him.
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