stevie_23 Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 Meaning, when I’ve been through a breakup, at first I tend to get into all this slightly melodramatic stuff that doesn’t help me at all, in the form of various analogies for my feelings, such as… When you’re in the relationship, it feels like you’ve been basking in the sun, or in the spotlight, and then when they breakup with you, you’re plunged suddenly into darkness. When you’re in the relationship, you share your thoughts, feelings and experiences with your partner, but afterwards, you only have yourself and are alone with your thoughts and feelings…and it feels to me like you’ve been talking on the phone with this person but they hung up 30 minutes ago and you’ve been blabbering away to yourself. Alone. You are standing in a doorway with your partner and then suddenly they shut that door in your face. It literally slams in your face and stays closed. You wait there for however long you choose, and then slowly walk away sadly. You’ve been hugging your partner while standing on the edge of a cliff, and then they suddenly let you go and you fall, plummeting to your death. You lay at the base of the cliff, looking up before you die, and the last thing you see is them turning and walking away. These days, 9 weeks after my ex left me, I no longer get these analogies coming into my mind, but if they do happen to crop up, I shut them down quickly. They don’t help me now. Anyone have any? 1
Fallen Petals Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 Mine for my relationship was related to how fast it all happened, how scary is all was...etc. Oh, I'm afraid of heights. I climbed the stairs to the high dive and walked to the edge of the diving board, suddenly realizing the pool is empty I turn to back down but slip and fall anyway. 1
Author stevie_23 Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 I forgot to mention the one about how way back after he left me, but before I knew he HAD left me, I thought he was giving me the total silent treatment because we’d had a fight the last time we spoke. At that time, I felt like a dog who had gotten carried away on impulse and lightly nipped his master’s leg. Then the master kicked the dog away violently and the dog (me) hit the wall and fell down, flattened, before the master shoved him in a tiny cramped dog house and locked the door. That’s how I felt…like the dog. Then that analogy kind of progressed once I found out he’d actually dumped me. I now felt like the dog had been removed from his home entirely and kicked out completely. No home. No master. No love. Thrown away like a worthless piece of crap. 1
mcdo Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 I gave this analogy on a "putting your ex on the pedestal" thread: ya nobody's perfect. but i've been putting my ex on the pedestal too. i think it's cos i moulded myself around her so that we were a near-perfect fit (not perfect obviously, otherwise we wouldn't have split!) and that's why she is so amazing to me. the hole that's been left is in the shape of my ex and i'm finding it very difficult to fill that hole. If anyone knows how enzymes work - it feels like that. Or like a lock and key. I'm the lock and she was the only key that fit. Since the breakup I've been trying to fit other keys in but they don't fit - be they friends, hobbies, potential partners, etc. So I've figured out that I actually need go to the locksmiths and reshape the lock.
cottom Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 When your in a relationship you tell everyone "dont get a relationship its awful" the second your single "i want a relationship so badly"
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