bolita Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 This is my first time using an online forum for this reason. I have used google to read on using no contact to win your ex back. I will cut to the point and I need some advice if I should call her. We were together for 3 years and a half. Before that we were friends for about 10 years. I was using no contact for 2 and a half months (closed facebook, aim, skype, ect..) Our family is close and I saw her at a get together for my nephews baptism. She began talking to me before she was leaving and mentioned why I have not called her and she called me a stranger...she went on by saying I most likely deleted her from my contact list on my phone. She also asked how I was doing, etc..I kept it short and to the point but at the same time I was positive and aproachable and just being myself with my friends. She seemed sad when I would glance at her at times and she was nervous and laughing a lot when she spoke to me.. She mentioned she wanted to call me because she needed help when she was lost driving..(she does not own a smart phone) Im just not too sure what to make out of it. Should I call her? Or send her a text just asking how she is doing? She left me for someone else, a week after dumping me they were in a relationship. From what I hear she seems happy with him. I'm not too sure what to do..
TaraMaiden Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 Maintain no contact, stay polite and civilised by emotionally distant. Read the No Contact Guide (updated 2013) in my signature. It's never about what they do to sabotage your heart. It all about what you do to preserve it, heal it and move on. The guide will help. And we will too. 1
Author bolita Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 I understand that its about healing and by maintaining no contact works on both ends. I move on and she gets to experience what life is without me. However, I do want her back and Im confident she will regret it someday. This is the first time I have ever felt this pain from a break up. The feeling of being left behind for another guy..its definitely hard. She is rebounding, and the way I look at it is this whole thing is just a game. She is winning right now but when the time is right I will turn the cards on her. With more time and patience reality will hit her and I will be stronger and even more confident in myself. I will continue to pursue my career goals and work on being more active and involved and continue to go to the gym. I will turn it around once she floats down from the clouds with this new guy. If I play the right cards and at the right time I can make her realize what she once had and now lost. That is my current motivation hopefully things will unwrap themselves in my favor. I will continue the NC for now. Ultimately, I would want her to call me.
TaraMaiden Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 I don't want to be the one to burst your bubble, but what you believe would be a just result - will in all likelihood never come to pass. Don't adopt No Contact in the hope of contact from her - because the moment you respond, she will simply break your heart all over again, by tossing you breadcrumbs. Have you actually READ the thread, all the way through? I respectfully suggest you do - taking careful note of the posts that follow, mostly concerning those who, like you, yearned for an attempt on the part of the ex- to contact them.... all of them whom, without exception, saw their hopes of a 'second chance' dashed.
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