MissPriss Posted August 30, 2004 Posted August 30, 2004 I'm totally in "lust" with the idea of having a relationship with a friend. He keeps telling me to "wait". But I'm so into him - he's every other thought all day long. I need help!!! I've tried the distance thing and it seems to only make me want him more... He can easily "take my breath away" if he will just give in ( he wants it too but we have an ex issue on my part that is "blocking") Do we deny our desire for each other to spare the ex's feelings ( we are all in the same circle of friends) If so how do you get past the "what if's"???? Somebody please help me!!!!!!
uriel Posted August 31, 2004 Posted August 31, 2004 Well, you can't do anything about his reluctance to start things up. Just give him time. Do your best to avoid him for awhile, look your best when you do see him, and get involved with other people, places, things in the meantime. Acting needy / clingy / crazy isn't going to help your case any. If he's worried about hurting his friendship with your ex, only time and your ex's moving on is likely to help. -- uriel
surfergirl Posted August 31, 2004 Posted August 31, 2004 Smile, as hard as it may be, but don't lose hope in what you want. I agree with uriel, keep busy because some people are just hard to figure out. If the guy you're interested in is so worried about the friend instead of following his heart then maybe they should hook up. I'm not saying everyone should date their ex's friend but sometimes true love is found in the strangest places....sometimes it's the person right in front you. Sounds like you two could have a great relationship but only time will tell. Hang in there we are here for you....anytime...
Bart_Weisser Posted September 1, 2004 Posted September 1, 2004 I'm totally in "lust" with the idea of having a relationship with a friend. He keeps telling me to "wait"... ( he wants it too but we have an ex issue on my part that is "blocking") Howdy! If he is really into you and the ex is the only obstacle, why not invite him to a secret mini getaway? This way, the ex doesn't feel so bad because you two technically "bonded" on the trip, just like that six-days seven nights thing. Seriously, I think you two just need the room to develop your friendship into something more and a trip is probably the best way to do it. BW.
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