destroyed4sho Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 First of I want to thank everyone that has been helping me through this really painful time of my life. I am on NC, but I must admit, I secretly want my ex to message me and turn my world around in the way that I would accept. I KNOW its wrong, and Im sorry, its just Im not yet in the indifference stage but I am getting there... Anyway, with that said, I keep thinking, what if my ex messaged me on Valentines day....what would I say? (I know it sounds pathetic, but I kinda do want a surprise message to pop on my phone...lolol) ohhh godddd help me!! lol I am pretty sure that it will happen to some people on this board, I just KNOW, because its a numbers thing....I don't want to give false hope to anyone but there will be some people...and we will hear about it. Anyway, if they messaged you on V-day...what would you do/say?
na49 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I don't secretly want my ex to contact me. I have no problem admitting it. I want her to contact me! I want her to jump through hoops and show me that I still matter. I guess it would depend what she said. If she apologized and wanted to fix things or something like that I'd respond. If she was just checking up on me and was trying to be a "friend", I'd probably ignore it. 1
NoLeafClover Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 (edited) What if u went NC and she contacts you? Umm sounds nice , wait already got that..HELL NO ...actually I hope she'd stop bothering me with her games n drama..i spent 5 1/2 months with a 30 yr old child. Let the other guys play her like every singleone before she met me. Not my prob anymore On another note I think you are going NC for the wrong reasons Edited February 12, 2013 by NoLeafClover 1
cavalier99 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I don't want a message plus i wouldn't respond. It took me like a month to recover from the birthday email i didn't respond to. Plus this is the last day i would ever expect to get a message form her. Why would she message me on Valentines day if we aren't together? Makes no sense. 3
lollipop29 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I don't want a message plus i wouldn't respond. It took me like a month to recover from the birthday email i didn't respond to. Plus this is the last day i would ever expect to get a message form her. Why would she message me on Valentines day if we aren't together? Makes no sense. i could totally see it happening actually 1
stevie_23 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Well…I wouldn’t even entertain this notion because I have 100% certainty that it will NOT happen. If your ex DID text you on this romantic of days, what WOULD you say? It all depends what HE would say. I suspect the only thing that would make you feel ok and “turn your life around” is if he said something along the lines of “I’m so sorry. I can’t believe how much I’ve hurt you. I still love you so much, and I can’t bear to be without you. I realised that I was a fool. Please come back to me.” Anything less? Anything like “Hey, how are you?” is not gonna cut it and your Valentine’s Day will just turn into a huge step backwards. This Valentine’s Day I have got a nice card for my long term partner, and we are going out to dinner at a local Thai restaurant. 1
Mack05 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 (edited) First of I want to thank everyone that has been helping me through this really painful time of my life. I am on NC, but I must admit, I secretly want my ex to message me and turn my world around in the way that I would accept. I KNOW its wrong, and Im sorry, its just Im not yet in the indifference stage but I am getting there... Anyway, with that said, I keep thinking, what if my ex messaged me on Valentines day....what would I say? (I know it sounds pathetic, but I kinda do want a surprise message to pop on my phone...lolol) ohhh godddd help me!! lol I am pretty sure that it will happen to some people on this board, I just KNOW, because its a numbers thing....I don't want to give false hope to anyone but there will be some people...and we will hear about it. Anyway, if they messaged you on V-day...what would you do/say? What a waste of your precious valuable time. You will probably spend all Valentines day the checking your phone, email, Facebook etc wondering if your ex will make contact and if she does what will you say. Your ex will probably go out with her friends have an amazing night or will end up on a date with a cute guy. While u are wasting time with pointless thoughts, she will be enjoying her time with you probably being the furthest thing from her mind.. What not instead use this day as a productive day. A day where you make a pact with yourself to leave your ex where she belongs. In the past. If you are working that day, work extra hard. Later, If you got free mates try meet up for a beer. If no one is around, do a real hard work-out after work. On the way home get in some beers, nice quality food ingredients and some DVD's. Before cooking have a nice long hot bath, with a glass of wine/beer. Then cook a meal that takes time and effort. Switch on the DVD's and relax.... Edited February 13, 2013 by Mack05 2
Author destroyed4sho Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 What if u went NC and she contacts you? Umm sounds nice , wait already got that..HELL NO ...actually I hope she'd stop bothering me with her games n drama..i spent 5 1/2 months with a 30 yr old child. Let the other guys play her like every singleone before she met me. Not my prob anymore On another note I think you are going NC for the wrong reasons Well, good for you, sounds like your all set. I began NC for the wrong reasons but now I am pretty sure I am doing it for the right reasons. Its been a month of NC and I already feel stronger, better, but not quite there yet. I am still having meltdowns, crying, not focused...but I feel its gotten slightly better. I don't know what I would do if I got a "Happy Valentines Day " message from this ex. I have gotten these before from previous exes and I don't even remember how I responded in the past. This time...I have no idea what I would do.
Author destroyed4sho Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 What a waste of your precious valuable time. You will probably spend all Valentines day the checking your phone, email, Facebook etc wondering if your ex will make contact and if she does what will you say. Your ex will probably go out with her friends have an amazing night or will end up on a date with a cute guy. While u are wasting time with pointless thoughts, she will be enjoying her time with you probably being the furthest thing from her mind.. What not instead use this day as a productive day. A day where you make a pact with yourself to leave your ex where she belongs. In the past. If you are working that day, work extra hard. Later, If you got free mates try meet up for a beer. If no one is around, do a real hard work-out after work. On the way home get in some beers, nice quality food ingredients and some DVD's. Before cooking have a nice long hot bath, with a glass of wine/beer. Then cook a meal that takes time and effort. Switch on the DVD's and relax.... True that! Very nice post. Thank you.
Author destroyed4sho Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 Well…I wouldn’t even entertain this notion because I have 100% certainty that it will NOT happen. If your ex DID text you on this romantic of days, what WOULD you say? It all depends what HE would say. I suspect the only thing that would make you feel ok and “turn your life around” is if he said something along the lines of “I’m so sorry. I can’t believe how much I’ve hurt you. I still love you so much, and I can’t bear to be without you. I realised that I was a fool. Please come back to me.” Anything less? Anything like “Hey, how are you?” is not gonna cut it and your Valentine’s Day will just turn into a huge step backwards. This Valentine’s Day I have got a nice card for my long term partner, and we are going out to dinner at a local Thai restaurant. I am 99.9% sure she will not....I only leave the .1% to the fact that my previous ex did do this for 5 years in a row. I don't know what I would say if she wrote "Happy Valentines Day" I wouldn't want to write it back, it feels awkward and I won't mean it. If its something like "Hi, how are you?" that is also awkward...because why are you messaging me on v-day..obviously you were thinking about me...but its doesnt change anything.
Author destroyed4sho Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 I don't secretly want my ex to contact me. I have no problem admitting it. I want her to contact me! I want her to jump through hoops and show me that I still matter. I guess it would depend what she said. If she apologized and wanted to fix things or something like that I'd respond. If she was just checking up on me and was trying to be a "friend", I'd probably ignore it. Yes, I would want to as well but I think if my ex did write that "hello" text...I would honestly want to know what made them reach out to me on V-day? I mean really, they dump me and then message on V-Day...wtf is that?
Yamcha Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 I told my ex not to contact me. She's with some other dude and probably couldn't give two ****s about me anymore. I know that's for the best.
meeji Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 I didnt even think about this... If my ex contacts me on valentine's day I will be so pissed! Happy that he is thinking about me but pissed bc nc has been paying off for me. Why ruin it. 3
ItxWillxGetxBetter Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 I hope she doesn't contact me. I'm pretty sure she won't but if she does I will be pissed. Here's the thing what will be the point of her contacting me? To say hi? To say she misses me? First, I don't want to be her friend so there is no point in saying hi. Secondly, I don't want her back so there is definitely no point in her telling me she misses me. More importantly, NC has been working wonders so I don't need the inevitable setbacks that comes along with contact. No thanks! I'll pass! 1
Author destroyed4sho Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 V-day is tomorrow. :-( I wish I had a Valentine's but one that would never leave...oh well **ck it. I don't want a text, its not worth revisiting painful feelings of loss.
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