its a lifestyle Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 Don't use his behavior on 2 dates to make a decision on whether or not to have sex with him on date 3. And don't worry about anybody else's rules - only worry about how you feel and what you want. Generally, men will be on their very best and most charming, romantic behavior before having sex with a woman for the first time. And if he really likes you, he'll wait much longer than a few dates. Do it when you're ready, and not any sooner. red flag. Stop thinking so much with your hormones and how hot he is. Dont rush sex. Listen to the other women and make sure this guy proves himself first. Its not unlike an attractive guy to play sweet on a girl when he knows he gets her horny. And then for him later to bail. So be smart and careful. stop cock blocking 1
Author tealwindex Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 I'm sure you'll have a great night! DON'T LET ANYBODY ON HERE TALK YOU OUT OF IT! Well, I haven't talked myself in to it or out of it yet....who knows, maybe it won't even be offered...all I know is that right now I'm planning on going to a hotel, having fun, talking, and seeing what happens. I haven't dated in a few years, because I had gotten comfortable and I didn't want to take any risks or do anything adventurous, so lately I've been saying yes to a lot more things, and trying to open myself up more. (No pun intended.) That doesn't mean I'm totally going to do it if presented with the opportunity, it just means I don't think I'm going to rule it out. Everything you have all said makes a lot of sense, and people are saying YES TOTALLY DO IT, and NO WAY, RUN FOR THE HILLS....so, I don't want to make my mind up completely before hand...just gonna wait it out. I think. Probably.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 I don't think I'll ever be "ready" with anyone....I'm a super awkward person, and I'm surprised this has gone as far as it has already, because he's super hot....and I can't imagine anyone making me feel more comfortable than he does. So, I'm kind of starting to see this as a now or never type thing...at the very least, it should make me more comfortable about sex with whoever I wind up with next time. (Not that I want to wind up with some else.) Super hot guys with experience know how to make women feel comfortable... to get what they want. I'm not saying he's only after sex, but after 2 dates, you don't know. I'm not trying to tell you not to have sex if that's really what you want to do. But if you're past your teen years and still a virgin, you've probably been holding out for a reason. And it's FAR from now or never. You'll almost certainly have no problem finding someone to have sex with for the first time and the rest of your life after. That's a perk of being female. Just think about what you're doing.
MyPoutine Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 ...lol what?? 3rd date = sex?? In which universe? Adopt my 3 month rule, it eliminates flakes/players/jerks/STD's/ etc by about 90 - 99% 2
e40 Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 And it's FAR from now or never. You'll almost certainly have no problem finding someone to have sex with for the first time and the rest of your life after. That's a perk of being female. Just think about what you're doing. Mostly, but there are some guys who'll reject older female virgins. It's nothing like this for older male virgins who almost every woman avoids. She'll be able to get sex, but it may not be on her first try.
Author tealwindex Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 Oh, and I'm a homosexual, if that changes anything...sorry, I never caught that. Should have mentioned it sooner.
crude Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 As always, some people assume that the man is a predator and the woman is his victim. Maybe a woman can be horny and just want to get laid. All the warnings are based on the lame stereotype. And the older a woman gets, the more she becomes a type, not a person. She becomes the old broad that a hot guy will do in between real women, like college girls. She becomes the oddity, a 35 year old virgin that guys can take bets on. Make up your own mind, grown woman.
Author tealwindex Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 I'm still not a woman. I'm a gay man in his 20s. 1
FitChick Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 Then I guess you won't have to worry about getting pregnant. 3
Author tealwindex Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 Ha. At least I've got that. Thanks.
its a lifestyle Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 I'm still not a woman. I'm a gay man in his 20s. Oh, well... that changes a lot regarding the advice I gave, hmm, yeah.. awkward.
Keenly Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 I was under the impression that the rules was not "sex on the third date," but rather " by the 3rd date, you should know if you are going to have sex with that person or not."
musemaj11 Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 (edited) 3rd date sex rule is just like paying for the first 3 dates rule. It does exist no matter what people say. But then again if two gay men go on a date, I dont know how the paying thing works ,,, Edited February 13, 2013 by musemaj11
ja123 Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 I'm still not a woman. I'm a gay man in his 20s. How old is your partner? How experienced is he? Do you know if you're a top or a bottom?
Author tealwindex Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 How old is your partner? How experienced is he? Do you know if you're a top or a bottom? He's a few years younger than me, and I assume more experienced, because most people are...on date #2 when we almost had sex, he tried to get me to put a condom on, and I had assumed he would be putting on the condom (based on how our date dynamics had worked up til then) but he said something about him using a condom another time. So, I think he likes to switch it up, which I would be fine with, I think, I just always pictured myself as the more submissive individual in that type of situation.
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