yansammy Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 (edited) I decided to break up with my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years four days ago. We've been in a long distance relationship for two years since my college is four hours away, and I thought it for the best that we split up and find people we can actually have a physical relationship with; most couples see each other more in six months than we do in two years. I had thought about it every day for a week, debating whether or not I should break it off till I finally did. He said on the phone that he understood and that we could still be friends, but every time I think about him I can't help but tear up. It seemed I was so eager before to be single again, and now that I've meet a few other guys all I want to do is go back to my ex. Those first two days after the initial decision I was fine, but today the realization of everything came down hard on me. I can't help but wonder if I made the right decision. I've had boyfriends before, but he was my first real love, the man I lost my virginity to. Are these normal feelings to be having after a breakup, or should I have given this decision more thought? I'm wondering if it was a decision that came out of loneliness and frustration more than anything. I can't function; I cried all day today because I missed him so much, and the thought of never being together again makes me want to crawl in a whole and never come out. I wish I could ask him to come back to me, to try and figure out a way where we can make this work, but I can't after how bad I hurt him. I just don't know, what would you do in my situation? It's only been four days and I'm losing my mind, while he's already accepted that we'll only be friends. We haven't gotten to talk it out thoroughly yet, but he said we could talk about it more once spring break rolls around in three weeks. I don't know if I should wait that long to say anything. Edited February 12, 2013 by yansammy
tory1012 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 These situations are very tricky and i can wholeheartedly understand why you did what you did. I think that if you two love each other and i don't mean love in a habitual sense that you are just a habit to one another. I think that this is just a temporary situation and i'm sure that other couples have made it work. This is a bit extreme, but imagine couples when the war was on and how long they would have to wait to see each other and if they ever would again. If you love him and he loves you try and make it work Hope this helps
KatZee Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I know a couple that went LD due to college, and even remained together when he went out of country for his study abroad program. They have been together 10 years, are now married, and living together. If you both are in love you make it work. Is it ideal? Of course not. Everyone wants to be close to their partner. And it sucks when you had a s.hitty day and want to just hug your bf/gf and can't. But it sucks more if you know you let go the love of your life. Would you rather be with him and struggling temporarily, or with someone else?
mcdo Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Not saying this is certain, but it's possible he just accepted being friends cos that's as much as you were offering him. Are you sure he's not a wreck right now too? If you really want to be with him, fixing things could be a phone call away (again not saying that's certain).
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