stealyourface Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I don't want to get into to many details but if you need to know them to answer i;ll let you know them. I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years for personal reasons, I also quit my job and dropped out of college all within 2 months. My life was out of control and i needed to start fresh, and right now it is going the way i want to, but my ex is now a total wreck, she has this hope that we are defiantly going to get back together but i just don't see it happening.. i still love her but right now my focus is elsewhere.. i found out she cut herself and i was in complete shock.. she is now telling me I'm the only thing that can stop her.. I just don't know what to do, I don't think i want to get back together but if that is going to stop her i'd just have to.. I drove to her house when she told and and upon opening the door she stunk of vodka, she never drank in her life but now she started.. Im really worried about her, I'm talking to my counselor and i'm going to take her but i just don't know what i did, i feel this extreme guilt.
KatZee Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 First of all, what she's doing is manipulation in it's fullest form. If you feel this is the right thing to do for you, then do it. Don't be with someone out of guilt or because they made you feel so bad for them that you acquiesce. It will only lead to resentment on your end, and how good is she going to feel that she had to mutilate herself in order for you to want to be with her? If you have to, tell her family that you're worried about her. But the way to help her isn't by being in a relationship with her when you know your focus and priorities are elsewhere.
creighton0123 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Agree with Kat. The best thing you can do is call someone who is responsible for her (parents, siblings, close friend), inform them of what she is doing, and then start no contact.
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