Rob2183 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Alright, this may be a bit long but I could really use the advice. about three months ago (November) I met a girl and we started talking sea 21 and in school and I'm 25, she's very mature for her age so the difference in age seems non existent. at first I thought this would be more or less just a hook up sice we were both physically attracted to each other, but over time it became more than that.we talk everyday, good morning texts/goodnight calls all of that I even visit her at school that's about 45 min away and I stay up there with her. when she was home from school for Christmas break we saw each other everyday and ha sex a few times. on Christmas she invites me over to see her family and have dinner it was a fun time and the family loved me. Now my issue is this recently about a few days ago she said she wasn't ready for a commitment and that she did not need space just some time to figure herself out and that she ha walls up from previous relationships I guess. I've backed off a little but things seems the same texts me all day and calls me at night. I'm a little bit confused with that she wants and would love to hear why you guys think. I do like her and I know she likes me to so do I wait for her and keep doing what I'm doing or cut it off? Thank you!
clia Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Now my issue is this recently about a few days ago she said she wasn't ready for a commitment and that she did not need space just some time to figure herself out and that she ha walls up from previous relationships I guess. No confusion here -- she doesn't want a relationship with you. And she has told you that point blank. Listen to her. I've backed off a little but things seems the same texts me all day and calls me at night. She thinks you are a cool dude. She likes you as a friend. She may even like having sex with you. BUT -- she doesn't want a relationship with you. I'm a little bit confused with that she wants and would love to hear why you guys think. I think she doesn't want a relationship with you -- like she said. I do like her and I know she likes me to so do I wait for her and keep doing what I'm doing or cut it off? You've been friendzoned. Or maybe friendswithbenefitszoned. Decide how you feel about that. If you are happy just being friends with her, then keep talking to her. If you are looking for a relationship, though, you are better off just cutting it off.
Author Rob2183 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 I mean I appreciate what you said buying definitely not friendzoned, all of her friends when I talk to them say how into me she is and how she likes me. She just said she's not ready to be in a realationship right now. She was in one or like 4 or 5 years
cottom Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Well as i am not in her mind i cannot tell you whats happening exactly, so i shall tell you my story which sounds very similar. My ex was with me for 2 years, in september she started university and in december i got the "i want to see what else is out there, i dont want to commit now, i dont want to be in a comfortable relationship" There were many causes behind this; 1) Her mother, her mom wanted this one man but she left him saying she wanted to see what else is out there, a week later she changed her mind and went back but the man had moved, she met another man and got pregnant straight away, she didnt like this man but was stuck with him due to the baby...All these problems she constantly told my ex so my ex is afraid of settling. 2) Going to university, been in the situation where she is in a relationship and tied down while everyone else is out there free and sleeping with everybody. She felt held back when they talk about all the "scoreboards" and she can say yeah my bf is nowhere near here so i cant see him and get a scoreboard too. 3) Her friends, they think they are the biggest whores ever, because they go to a club and will just throw themselves on every guy so my ex when she went out with them was stood on her own while they were over everyone. Her friends constantly went on about how single is so much better cause your not stuck with the same person. 4) She had boys constantly hitting on her, our relationship with her being 45 minutes away was mainly through texting and me coming down once a week. These boys were coming knocking on her door every day spending time with her. In the end i had that speech and we left it on a break, 2 days later she was seeing one of the boys that was calling for her everyday at uni.
cottom Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I got her texting me still and speaking on the phone everyday, as soon as i stopped messaging her she stopped and i dont think she looked back cause she is an immature piece of trash really
Author Rob2183 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 Damn dude, I'm sorry about what happened to you, I mean it's a little different cuz we never dated but she just acts different towards m like he wants something more just not right now...every morning she sends me pics no not nudes lol and calls me baby and all that. It's crazy
Author Rob2183 Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 Any help? I could really use it. Thank you.
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