gettingthrough Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Me and my husband have been married a little over 16yrs. However, we have been separated come February 28th one whole year. Through the year, I have gone through alot of mixed emotions, 2 days after he left, my dad passed away so you can imagine what Ive been through. My husband made a decision to not attend the funeral, but that day he was there for me and my kids. The reason behind the separation was I was frustrated with him living his life in a bar, having female friends which have lead to emotional connections only, and the feeling the pressure of the whole family on my shoulders. I figured, if I gotta do it alone mys well be alone. So I was the one that asked him to leave. So off he went, moved into to his mom and dad place with his son, and pretty much only has to worry about himself. He does not give me any support financially or emotionally. However, my heart and mind craves him. The whole time we have been separated, we still remained in contact either threw a text, call or a visit- more from me then from him. Just recently he broke his leg! and I was the first one he called to come help, he broke his leg from being kicked while dancing. (the dancing is new, never really danced before) but he says someone kicked on purpose and the only person he seen walking away was my nephew, this nephew swears he didnt do it, I dont know what to think. Ive been trying to be that wife he married even though we live in two separate homes, besides having a mothernlaw wanting to take care of him too, I feel I dont have a place there. the only time I do have a place is when i bring him back home. well now he is getting well, he is more dependent on himself and really doesnt need me at all. well the last couple of days i have asked him to come over, he responds NO. his excuses are: he doesnt want to come into my neighborhood because of my nephew lives over there, he doesnt want to be around my son- said he didnt want to live with my 23yr son, and by the time he moves out, my neighborhood will be down hill to the point he wouldnt want to live here. umm, then he goes why would I want to be there, and I said "cause if am there" but still no. I left soon after, thinking why was staying here good enough just even last week but not this week... I made a decision today to have no contact, but Ive done that before and by the end of the day I am contacting him. but I am not sure what to do anymore..
jf2good Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Why did you decide to separate instead of divorcing him in the first place over a year ago? Do you want to keep the marriage as is "separated" or do you plan on divorcing and for some reason haven't yet filed?
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