Feeling Really Down Today, anybody tell me whats wrong with me!?

[cottom]

Girl with GIGS left me and got another guy 3 days later after saying she wants to be 'single' he is nothing compared to me! He is smaller, a school drop out, aged 19 yet going bald and has a load of wrinkles...the only thing he has that my ex would like is that he lives about 50ft from her university room and they are in the same classes together and they are in the same friend group!

 

Since we broke up 3 months ago i haven't even got a hug off a single girl, the last girl i was with was my ex. They just don't seem interested in me, i met one i really like though but her friend likes me but this is my mates little sister and she is not good looking (identical to my mate) and shes an immature emotionally unstable girl, so i don't like her back...but this stops her friend making a move, even though we both like each other.

 

What is it about me girls don't seem to like?

 

Me:

I am 20, an aerospace engineer with extremely high prospects, i play football (soccer) for the county team and i would be professional if it wasn't for my ankle, im one of the top young mathematicians in the country (top 5), I am manager at a local store, I have a lot of money, my own place, my own car, I'm an amazing chef and i treat a girl like a princess (buy her things, treat her and help her out when she struggles, take her away to lavish holidays).

 

I'm average height 5'10 but i am very good looking according to girls and have got a good body thanks to working out all the time in my home gym i single handedly built.

 

I also have the bad boy streak girls seem to like, i do boxing and street fighting and hang out with the low life douches that girls all seem to go for, i admit i have taken part in illegal doings, but i don't take drugs or anything like that so i am clean, i also don't sleep with every girl, my first i was with for 8 months before we sexed, second i was with 2 months. Thats all the partners I've had.

[cdt76]

Well, you are young. You have the world at your fingertips with very little in the way of hinderences. You should be on the look out for girls who are only with you for the status. Once you are in the real world, you will enjoy the fruit of all your hard work. You seem to have all that going for you. She is obviously and idiot. Move on to something better.

[cottom]

When i look back at her she was a terrible person

 

she was a nasty person, all she did was spread nasty stories and call all her friends horrible names behind their back

 

she had no respect for me, we would have an arrangement, i would turn up and then find out she actually went out with friends cause they just invited her and she rather do that, when i mentioned it she was go mad and blame me

 

she was boring, when she would talk all it was about was bitching about her friends

 

she wasnt the best looking, she had a weird shaped body, hair falling out constantly, really thin face, round her mouth was slightly green, her chin was thin and long and had a huge dimple in the middle and she had no toning on her body it was all lose.

 

Not what i wanted at all, i treated her like a princess and gave her all she wanted.

[Chi townD]

Not to be rude. But, what exactly are you complaining about?

[cottom]

Thats not rude at all!

 

But, what i am asking is what is it about myself that doesnt attract girls? am i too much like what someone wants? am i a pushover? am i too desperate?

 

i try and talk to girls but they all have quite a few guys they chat too, e.g. a girl i am really interested in last night i mentioned this and she said yeah i talk to quite a lot of guys...i see all these guys as competition and cannot be bothered for the stress of competing against them so give up and stay alone.

[cottom]

But i dont understand why a girl would leave me for someone everyone acknowledges is worse

[Chi townD]

Well, I have an idea....and you're not gonna like it. But, I guess it's time to hit you in the head with a 2x4.

 

The way you described yourself and the way you described her makes you look like a proud card carrying member of the Douche Rockets of the World Organization. You may be projecting yourself as God's gift to women and women are put off by that.

 

Look, girls go for the "bad boy" image and it's nice for a short period of time. But, most women don't want a "bad boy" for the long term. And if you're hanging around low life's and other Douche Rockets, well...girls don't want to surround themselves with d-bags 24/7. Most women think that "Bad Boys" are fun for a while. But, their also disposable.

 

I'm not saying NOT to be proud of your accomplishments, but a girl wants a guy to be a strong and independant man. Basically, she wants you to be you. Not a persona.

 

She'll want to see that you're proud of your accomplishments and surround yourself with nice things. But, in the end, you are humbled and cherish one possession that is yours. And that would be her. You humble the fact that she chose you out of all the guys in the world. And you keep that and respect it. If she's a good girl, then that's really all she wants.

[cottom]

Well i did a lot for her, and i never once got a thankyou.

 

I saw she was stressed with her work, so i went while she was out, brought her a new dress and shoes, got myself a new suit, cooked her a 3 course candlelit dinner and then took her out to a bar where i paid for her drinks all night....what did i get in return? no thankyou or this was nice, i got "the starter made the kitchen smell too much"

 

She asked me to get her some perfume and she would give me the money for it, i got her the one she asked for and she took it and put it on the shelf and never said a word to me about it.

 

She moaned how everyone on her uni course doesnt know what they are doing so noone can help her, i taught myself a years worth of work and taught her everything and she moaned to me i didnt teach her enough. No thankyou or anything

[Chi townD]

Well, then if that's how she was behaving, then let the toad have her.

 

But, I still stand by my other post. Tone it down with the "bad boy" persona. The right girl is out there and she waiting for you to find her.

 

And I think the next girl you need to find is a professional girl. A girl that's already established and have already met some of her goals.

 

That way, she'll WANT to be with you rather than NEED to be with you ( big difference).