girlunchained Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I posted this is breakups as well, but thought maybe I could get some insight from this forum as well. My now ex-bf and I did long distance for about 8 months. We were only together about a month before I returned from England to the States, but we'd known each other before that and had many mutual friends. We began keeping in touch more and more seriously after I left, but didn't want to make the distance official. Things got more serious as I booked a plane ticket to see him in December, and when I finally did visit a month ago, things were incredible. When we left, he said he still had doubts about his ability to do distance because he's always had trouble with texting/skyping and finding time dedicated to those things, but that I was worth trying for. Yesterday, after a month of trying, he said he wanted a clean break from the distance and not even to do what we did last semester of not being official but keeping in touch frequently. He said it's been stressful for him, and he loves me and doesn't want us out of each other's lives completely. Because I'm moving to England in late August and we wouldn't have to do LD anymore, we want to keep the option of getting back together open. May is the earliest we can visit each other, so we decided to revisit the situation in April after we've had some time to focus on ourselves instead of the relationship. He said looking back when we're happy and back together, we'll feel like this was the best decision we could have made and prevent us from feeling resentment towards one another. He said he doesn't want anyone as his GF but me and wants us to get back together in a couple months. I have to admit, I was starting to feel stressed out myself with trying to balance the relationship, my school work (writing a thesis is awful), two jobs, family, friends, etc. I love him so dearly and think he might be my soul mate, but I'm scared he'll just forget about me in march and never look back. Has anyone experienced a situation like this before and had a success? Because we broke up because of the distance, does a reconciliation in April sound feasible or am I crazy for feeling genuinely hopeful?
justwhoiam Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Has anyone experienced a situation like this before and had a success? No, not me. Not the way you expressed it: time off from one another, with no sort of commitment, and without any resentment. does a reconciliation in April sound feasible or am I crazy for feeling genuinely hopeful? He sounds convincing... after all, I guess he has nothing to lose from this. He's asking you to leave him alone until when you'll be physically with him again. No stress, no commitment, no effort whatsoever. But life is not like that. So you can live a vacation and be happy with him. But chances are life's not a vacation. It's more like a journey with good and bad moments. And someone who really loves you should stick around. Always.
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