mzdolphin Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Some of you know my story. It's been a while since I've been on here. Short version - Met guy 22 years ago when we were both single. Fell in love. I moved (career choice). We reconnected 17 years later (2008). I was divorced he told me he was divorced. He lied. He was married and his wife lived in another state. He had been living apart from her for five years. I told his wife (at the time he maintained he wanted out but she wouldn't give him a divorce). I was broken hearted, but listened to his lies and we continued seeing him for a year off and on. I went no contact for a year and then we started again. I broke it off again. Well, after some serious stress I broke it off and went no contact for more than two years. He would occasionally send emails, but I ignored. Recently he contacted me about another one of his brothers dying. We exchanged emails and began talking about our professional connections, projects. We are colleagues in the same industry, media. We have many mutual friends and colleagues. He began talking about co-writing a book. Talk developed into us discussing outline, promotion, etc. I even managed to get him booked on a radio show in which he would promote his new radio show and talk about this book we are going to write. Aside from the insanity as in "how do you tell your wife you're writing a book with your former affair partner" I decided working with him was just a complete no no, no matter how we vowed to "keep it professional". He slips in "his feelings for me" from time to time and that he loves me. I need to get him out of my life before something happens. I thought I had the situation under control, even moved further away. But he is coming to my area, where I live. I just started no contact again. I'm seeking support in what I feel is a weak moment for me. I allowed him to use our professional connections to wiggle back into my life.
TaraMaiden Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 "Weak moment"....?! The whole damn thing seems to have been one great big "Weak moment"....!! Ok, what would it take for you to grow a spine, do the right thing, drop off his radar, go No Contact and never see or spaek to him again? What would you need? What's going to be the drive?
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