cheese_man Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 (edited) So this girls boyfriend of 3 1/2 years dumped her last year and said he never wanted to speak to her again. We started seeing each other straight after and have been seeing each other constantly the last 10 months but it was never a relationship, always in between friends and lovers although we spent at least 3 days of the week together and we both liked each other alot. So he comes back in the picture and I found out and she stresses to me they not getting back together but they still each other and speak. So she suddenly goes cold on me and starts ignoring me for no reason and when I ask her why she says our brains need a break from everything and I asked her if she was back with him and she says no.I don't contact her for almost 3 weeks and then I sent her a msg telling her I missed her and care about her loads and don't want to lose her even as just a friend and if they back together I can understand, I just want to talk to her again. She calls me crying and says he saw the msg and now he never wants to talk to her again. I apologize and said I never wanted him to read it, it was meant for her only. i mean it was to her phone, it was private i also didnt want him reading my **** to her...plus i had no idea they were bck together she always jus told me he wasted her time and they werent getting back together. a month before this when i noticed them speaking again we were seeing each other almost everyday , i had no clue she was suddenly back with him. The next day after i sent the msg to tell her i missed her and still cared bout her, she sends me a msg saying I hate you. And the next day message me non stop saying I ruin her life and she hates me I must never talk to her again... and blocked me on IM... what the hell do I do?? I care about her loads and told her I just wanted her to know. She kept telling me she hates me and that was it. FEEL like such a dick for just 1 msg privately to her to tell her how i still feel . In the past when I message her telling her my feelings she was always so happy to hear. It's not my fault that she probably never told him about me. And he broke up with her in the first place a year ago...was she not allowed to move on?? obviously the issue is he told her we were nothing and the msg made him realise we were more... but how is it my fault? how can she hate me now?? I was always there for her. I care about her loads but im horrified she would tlk to me like that for jus sending a msg and feel like never talking to her again... but we spent so much time together, she would often say i was her best friend ... what do I do now? Edited February 12, 2013 by cheese_man
TaraMaiden Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Steer clear, drop off her radar, go no contact. Breathe, one step at a time, and move on.
RickFox Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Be thankful for the time you had with her and move on. She wants to push you away, it's easier for her if you "hate" her so she can justify her feelings to herself. Leave her be and move on, it won't be easy..... but you can do it. She just showed you her maturity level and how she deals with problems, that's not someone you need in your life.
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