Abbeygee21 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 My boyfriend works away and is away for two week at a time we have been togther 3 years nearly and he has taken on my child and he treats her like his own she calls him daddy he is there for her! We have had our problems since moving into our new house two months ago and money being a main issue although he doesn't like to think it is anyway we spent Christmas together for the first time as a little family and after Christmas he spent a lot of time with his friends which is fine that's not an issue as he barely gets to see them and once it got to the weekend he wanted to spend it with me and spent the whole time telling me how much he loves me and all that jazz and he even mentioned marriage out of the blue!! I asked him if he was happy coz he seemed abit down during te week and he said some things are grting him down abit but he is happy with and our child and our life Anyway he left for work on the Monday and all through the week we were good and then it got to Monday and I txt him and he replied saying I'm not happy anymore so I asked why and what is making u unhappy and he said that it was us and our life and our house togther and his whole life he doesn't no why but he's just not happy so I tryed to speak to him about it and see what I can do to help him feel happy again and he didn't say much and then the following Wednesday he said he thinks we should break up and he just wants to be on his and he doesn't want to come home from work yet as he thinks I will try and make him change his mind!! I made sure to pay all te bills including some of his to take abit of pressure off him as money is a big thig for him! But nothing I do works I'm absolutely devastated that he has decided he wants to be alone he won't try and talk to me about it he just gets mad I'm really confused as we were so happy and I've asked him if its defernatly over so I can tell my daughter and he rea my message but didnt reply He is home tomorrow and I don't no what's going to happen or I'd this is defernatly over I don't no if I should atleast try talk to him I mean we have a life togther a life that we wanted and it took me a while to come round to saying yes to! But after three years of this life I'm glad I did but now this I just don't no what's going on! Abit of an insit to him he's very closed person and hates to argue he is very honest brutly homes and I trust him 100percent he is very loving and would do anything for us but sometimes he does miss having so much money to him self and seeing his friends more and sometimes he feels guilty if he sees his friends more than me although I've told him not to he just needs to find a balance I don't no what to do!!! Please help We have spent the weekend together coz he said h would stay with me it was like we have never broken up but we didn't have sex or anything like that but it was so normal it upset me even more coz its confusing and he kept making references to us moving house and what we should buy for the house as telling me that I should still trust him and that there is nobody else and I went out for a while and didnt txt him don't tell him where I wa going after an hour of me being out he txt saying where are you you have been ages :s I just don't get why he's acting like this when he said he didn't want to be with me and he's just left for work so he will be away for two weeks and said to me ill see you in two weeks :a none of it makes sense I'm even more confused And I didn't get a goodbye like I thought I would as in my eyes that was the last time we would see each other but he was just like cay later ill be home in either a week or two :s I've txt him and said that was abit of rubbish goodbye to say we won't see each other again he read it and ignored it I don't no what to do!!! Was he just acting like this coz he felt like he had to coz of the abortion but then again why woul he bother if I didn't want to be with someone and said I would stay with them while I had the abortion I wouldn't make such an effort I wouldn't go shopping with them I wouldn't talk about moving house with them I wouldn't be as nice as he was and he wasn't even being that nice coz he wanted to have sex!! So he didn't even have a reason unless u does want to be with me What should I do!
Author Abbeygee21 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 Also I txt him today coz I'm just so confused and said I'm moving out where s I take all the keys? (Coz I have every set he never takes then to work with him) hes read it and ignored it!! You would think if he wants rid of me he would just bloody say where to leave or take the keys!!!
lovecutsrightthruu Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Does he suffer from depression? Sounds like he may be depressed. Try not to over-react. Maybe you both just need a bit of space - don't do anything overly hasty or be melodramatic.
Author Abbeygee21 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 Yes I think he might do yes when he was younger appentley he was quite depressed at one point and it lasted ages Nd when he came home Friday he said he felt miserable and u happy and he has no idea why
Author Abbeygee21 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 Do you think I should stay in the house and see if he comes home or see if he talks to me and he gets over it or do I move out I like this weekend was all an act but jn my eyes even if we do live togther and he defo wanted it to be over he wouldn't of made an effort to spend time with me he would of dune his own thing if he really didnt want I be with me
lovecutsrightthruu Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 what are the pros and cons of staying in the house? Try listing them out. Does he ever get violent? If yes, obviously you would need to stay away from that.
Author Abbeygee21 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 Erin I've made a pros and cons list about all situations and the pros always out weight the cons an no never hes not a violant person at all
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