Fivedollarshake Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 dated/talked to a guy for 5 months - he ended it. (just started nc - we hang out with the same friends so it's a little difficult for me to move on when i see him and his name is brought up a lot) one of the reasons why he ended it was because i hooked up with one of his friends in the past. (i knew his friend for 3 years. met this guy months after i hooked up with his friend.. it was just sex. used him to get over my ex at the time and also as a distraction.. he was the first guy that i ever 'hooked' up with without no title or feelings involved.) told him in the very beginning that i hooked up with his friend and he said it didn't bother him as long as we weren't doing it now. (which we weren't and his friend has a girlfriend now) relationship got a lil serious and it started it bother him i guess... especially when we would all hang out together and his friends would crack jokes sometimes about it. i really haven't put much thought into this until one of my guy friends was talking to me about this today - he told me that he that guy i was talking to would have never dated me seriously because i had sex with one of his good friends in the past. is that really a deal breaker? there were two different situations in the past were i dated a guy (was his girlfriend and everything for a few months) ended it and started dating one of their good close friends a few months later. and these guys obviously knew i had sex with their friend, had feelings for each other and everything and it never bothered them because it was in the past.. and i even put some thought into it and i figured it would bother me as well in the beginning, but i would eventually get over it because it happened in the past. But i'm also a pretty open-minded person and easy going as well.. a lot of stuff doesn't bother me. but, is it really a deal breaker? does that bother guys so much that they would use that as one of the reasons to stop talking to a girl? even after he said 'i was falling for you' and everything? in all honesty it hurt my feelings when he used that as one of reasons to end things. yes, he was being honest with me.. but, at the same time it made me feel horrible about myself. just be honest though. i'm curious.
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