Doubts

[spth2010]

I have been in a relationship with my SO for 3 years in May. About a year ago I found out that he would have to move back in with his parents in Tennessee, which is 6 hours away from where I live. In April of last year he left to go see his grandma and was supposed to come back a week later cause he wasnt going to move until June. He never came back he had gotten a job and about 2 weeks later he came back to get all of his stuff out of his place with his dad. Of course at first I was heart broken but at the time i knew we where going to get to see each other alot cause I had a great job and got a good amount of time off each month. Well the first visit was great we got engaged. Then two months later i saw him again, and I was like great if we keep this going this will be easier than I thought. Well I thought wrong two days before he left to go back to TN I lost my job. He kept telling me everything was going to be ok and that we would still get to see each other. A month goes by nothing, two months nothing, three months nothing. The fourth month rolled around and he lays a big one on me and tells me that he lied when he said that he wanted to marry me, he wasnt ready he felt that it wasnt the right time. I was devastated and toyed with the idea of breaking it off cause I was afraid that he had lied more. So the fifth month rolled around and I finally got to go and see him, I was exstatic. Well about 2 days into being in TN i got this strange feeling that he was happier with being in TN by himself and with out me but i took it as its just the fact that I havent seen him in five months. Well the two weeks go by and he brings me home but he has to go back because his dad told him he had to, that was it he dropped me off and left. We had sex twice the two weeks i was there and we used to have sex all the time, i feel like alot of the times our relationship is that of a couple who has been married for 50 years. Is it the long distance? The past couple of weeks have been weird i feel like i dont know him anymore that he is bored with me and everytime i try to tell him how i feel i get the same thing, babe everything is going to be ok, i love you stuff like that.... Is this the long distance stress talking or is it how i truly feel someone please help i need some advice from other people who are going through this.

[justwhoiam]

So, are the two of you still together? I would start doubting everything too, if he started to go lukewarm about us... and about me. It can be a phase, or maybe he's conflicted. Who knows. Since you're out of a job now, have you considered moving there where he is? You would recreate a stable relationship. But of course he needs to be sure about what he wants. Getting married is a big step. I don't know how old are you both.