Coping Vortex Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I have had my share of relationships over the years. (Those of you that know me I'm in my 40's so I have been around.) Along with them many BU's But there are two that stick out in my mind. And a few guys should be kissing my ass because of them!!! 1. I was 13 she was 17. Being a cocky kid I decided to BU with my gf at the time for whatever reason I don't remember. She begged to get back and I refused. After awhile I deciced to get back with her by then she started dating a new guy to get over me. Well she is now 52 and is still married to that same guy. Just think if I took her back this dude would not be married to her or have his two boys. Funny how fate and timing works huh? 2 The second just happend a few months ago. My GF waiting for me to make decision on moving in with her, decided she couldn't wait any longer and decided to BU with me. Instead of running to her to fix the situation I went NC and gave her space. Well she figured we were done when she didn't hear from me so she went out with her GF's and met a new guy who flirted with her. I stayed NC all the while he put on the full court press. By the time I asked her to talk she was already involved. I tried several times to get her back but she is staying with him too. I lost a great girl because I didn't go after her and solve a simple issue. Well guys you both should be kissing my ass for handing you the loves of your lives. If I got off my ass for either of these women at the time you would be married to your hands right now! LOL!!! 2
316 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Welp... I guess this is one way to look at things. lol 1
lovecutsrightthruu Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Re:the 2nd one: No point in beating yourself up over something you felt was the appropriate decision at the time. That could have gone either way. You were just giving her space. 1
Author Coping Vortex Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 Re:the 2nd one: No point in beating yourself up over something you felt was the appropriate decision at the time. That could have gone either way. You were just giving her space. I hear you. But as we all do here we pick over the little subtle things that could have made the difference. Funny how sometimes one word one action done or not done could change your life for ever. My ex confirmed that if i told her 3 months what i told her this past week. It would have changed everything. So yea I will spin over it for awhile anyway.
lovecutsrightthruu Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 but it might have ended anyway but for a different reason. Lets say you got her back - got hitched - and Don Juan came into the picture 2 years later after you had a kid 2gether - she had an afffair and everything came apart - now you're deaing with a messy divorce and single parenthood. I know that's extreme - but the point I'm making is that we (you and I and many other people on this site)shouldn't find sh*t to beat ourselves up over cos you never know what would have happened had the events we wish didn't happen not occured .....wow what a sentence
Author Coping Vortex Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 but it might have ended anyway but for a different reason. Lets say you got her back - got hitched - and Don Juan came into the picture 2 years later after you had a kid 2gether - she had an afffair and everything came apart - now you're deaing with a messy divorce and single parenthood. I know that's extreme - but the point I'm making is that we (you and I and many other people on this site)shouldn't find sh*t to beat ourselves up over cos you never know what would have happened had the events we wish didn't happen not occured .....wow what a sentence Well she already has three kids and I have two and I can't have anymore LOL! So that particular scenario wouldn't have happend but I hear you. LOL! 1
lovecutsrightthruu Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 ok then......so you adopted.......lol
Simon Phoenix Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I hear you. But as we all do here we pick over the little subtle things that could have made the difference. Funny how sometimes one word one action done or not done could change your life for ever. My ex confirmed that if i told her 3 months what i told her this past week. It would have changed everything. So yea I will spin over it for awhile anyway. I wouldn't necessarily take that as truth. It could be, but I wouldn't be surprised if there was a shade of dishonesty to that. 1
Author Coping Vortex Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 I wouldn't necessarily take that as truth. It could be, but I wouldn't be surprised if there was a shade of dishonesty to that. In this case no. I know what we discussed could have changed everything. It was huge and to the core if our relationship moving forward. I just should have said it right away when she BU with me. Trust me it would have been the turning point.
TaraMaiden Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Yeah, we trust you. your gut has been right all along so far.... Eh....? 1
Simon Phoenix Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Yeah, we trust you. your gut has been right all along so far.... Eh....? Blunt, but my thoughts exactly.
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