creighton0123 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I'm approaching my second night now and, while I am not having trouble falling asleep, I'm wondering how others who were dumped after 2-3 years in a relationship while living together took to adjust to the reality that they would be spending the night alone for quite some time?
2sure Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Use the entire bed. Read with the bright light on. Eat breakfast in it. Own that bed. 3
Archgirl Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I still haven't, it's been just over year and I still sleep on "my half" of the bed if no one else is in it 1
A n t h o n y Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Still hate it ... Absolutely hate it. There's nothing better, IMO, than wrapping your arms around someone being all close and passing out. Probably what i miss the most out of everything. It's been 4 months now and I still feel weird with the "alone" feeling 2
sweetkiwi Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 It took me forever. Got a tiny bed. Still hated sleeping in it. So I slept on the couch so I felt comforted or something. Kinda sad but comfy. With my most recent ex we slept together nearly every night. I am still not used to sleeping without him. Its only been <3 months since I ended it. I dream of him often. Wake up searching for him in the night. Though during the day I am okay. Sure I miss him. But the night betrays me. 1
allenpo123 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Fill that empty space with pillows, blankets, stuffed animals, clothes, books... just whatever!! Made me feel less lonely, though sometimes in the night I mistake the pillows as him. Boy that's sad... but it's so much better than sleeping with that big empty space. 1
sweetkiwi Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Fill that empty space with pillows, blankets, stuffed animals, clothes, books... just whatever!! Made me feel less lonely, though sometimes in the night I mistake the pillows as him. Boy that's sad... but it's so much better than sleeping with that big empty space. The night is the worst. It's hard to sleep. Unless I have some booze in me. Wow thats sad. Anyway I just snuggle with my new puppy now. Still dream of the ex too much. Usually good dreams that we are together and he loves me. I wake up happy for a few moments.
cottom Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I dont touch her side of the bed, for the first week or two i would get to sleep in tears at 2-3am and have a dream with her in and then wake up about 5:30-6 because i was too scared to close my eyes and see her with me all happy again. I had the same dream for 2 weeks straight, me and her were on a coach going through a desert highway and the sun is glaring in but there is cool air conditioning on so its all comfy, i turn and look at her and she smiles back and tells me she loves me and she is so happy at that moment. Then i wake up and look over and she is not with me, she is with the guy she left me for. 3 months later and i am cold to her now, she has no place in my heart anymore she is dead to me, when i dream of girls now the girl is always a blur, i never see her face or body and ive accepted im just not gonna get a girl again cause im not the best
mammasita Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 (edited) UGH its hard. I changed my sheets to a color that I never used when he lived with me. I want to let my puppy sleep in the bed with me, but he snores, drools and farts too much Edited February 12, 2013 by mammasita
mcdo Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 3 months later and i am cold to her now, she has no place in my heart anymore she is dead to me, when i dream of girls now the girl is always a blur, i never see her face or body and ive accepted im just not gonna get a girl again cause im not the best I wish I was at this point by now! Before I met my ex, any girls in any dreams were blurred. Now it's my ex every time. And as a result I find mornings to be the worst. I think going back to the blurry female form is a very positive sign of progress. Your ex isn't haunting your dreams anymore. And we'll all get girls again cos get this - nobody is "the best". There's no such thing.
Author creighton0123 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 Well I must say that even after the first day (tonight will be the third night), I've had no problem falling asleep. In fact, sleep has been a bit easier without the noises. Mornings are lucky since I wasn't used to seeing him in the morning anyhow (different work schedules). While I can now keep the room at a temperature that is more comfortable for me (warmer), it is only a problem for the first few minutes when the bed is cold.
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