Everything was fine and then bam!

[Katriunrod]

My boyfriend of 2 months just dumped me 4 days ago. Let me start off by saying that heis 21 and im 20 first relationship for me and first serious gf for him. We spent holidays together and he used to treat me like a princess took me on nice dates cooked for me respected me, and everything i can ask for. I didnt ask to get an i love you yet because i dont think it was enough time for him to fall in love because he had past relationships which didnt workout however i do love him. Last saturday we had a nice date and we were already planning for our valentines date he already had my gift and i had his. 4 days out of the blue moon he says that we should stop seeing each other because we have nothing i common and because he didnt fall in love with me note that he treated me like he did. He said that he doesn't want to hurt me more in the future and that he might end up cheating on me since he doesn't love me. The only thing that called my attention was that during the last 2 weeks he stopped texting me frequently and didnt seem he wanted to hang out with me but when we did he treated me like he always did. What could have happen? He says its not my fault and that i was the best gf he ever had? On the same hand, one of our common friends told me he is sad so i dont get this? Helppp

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I see two options:

 

1) Some time during your 2 month relationship he found another girl.

 

2) He genuinely doesn't have feelings for you.

 

I'm leaning a bit towards option 2 cause overall he sounds like a nice guy that cared about you. You probably provided everything he wanted in a woman but he just simply didn't feel the "spark" needed to make the relationship work in the long run.

 

He actually did the right thing letting you go so early before things got too serious. A lot of people tend to string their SO's along far after they've mentally checked out of the relationship which is 3x worse. You're young (just like me), so you'll have PLENTY of time to find new love again believe me. Right now just focus on working on yourself and being the best "YOU" you could possibly be!

 

Oh and make sure you give yourself some time to heal from the ex. I'd recommend going NC until you feel you can at least be friends with him (only if you want/can handle it).

[GingerVixen]

He's an emotionally unavailable man. That's right my dear: he's unavailable to serious relationships. I suggest you to do a serous research on this topic (google it, there are many websites about it) because you'll see that your ex bf has CLASSICAL characteristics of emotionally unavailable men, and I will tell you some:

 

1. at the beginning he's obsessed with you, treats you like a queen, pampers you. You feel that he loves you more than you love him.

2. the attention he gives to you is overwhelming, that you feel adored.

3. he begins sometimes to act distant, giving mixed signals.

4. you fall in love with him and tell him so.

5. you begin making plans and he's getting more and more distant.

6. one day BAM he breaks up with you.

 

He felt suffocated with the Valentine's Day plans, and he realized he's afraid of serious relationships.

My dear the first thing you must learn is: IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. You could be the most wonderful sexy hot desirable intelligent rich woman, he would dump you anyway. IT'S HIS PROBLEM. He can't deal with a serious relationship or any kind of commitment.

 

Feel lucky that he's out of your life.

And I bet you that if you give a good dose of NC he'll talk to you again, with puppy eyes. DON'T FACE IT AS A GOOD THING. If you take him back he'll do everything again, only quicker. Good luck.