Niteowl1970 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I have been dating my Fiancee for 2 years now, the only reason we have not been married already is because she is still married. He has been dragging his feet for a year now, stalling the divorce (not doing his financial affidavit or parenting classes required in florida). He has admitted to her that he was doing it on purpose in hopes that something would happen between her and I, then she would run back to him. With all that said, they still communicate with regards to the 2 kids they have together and are on a friendly basis, I sometimes talk to him myself. His birthday was today, and I assumed she was going to wish him a happy birthday on FB, even I did. What has bothered me is that she did it at 12:12am and was the first post on his page to wish him HB. It kinda rubbed me the wrong way, is that something I should worry about.
strawberryshortstack Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 (edited) I have been dating my Fiancee for 2 years now, the only reason we have not been married already is because she is still married. He has been dragging his feet for a year now, stalling the divorce (not doing his financial affidavit or parenting classes required in florida). He has admitted to her that he was doing it on purpose in hopes that something would happen between her and I, then she would run back to him. With all that said, they still communicate with regards to the 2 kids they have together and are on a friendly basis, I sometimes talk to him myself. His birthday was today, and I assumed she was going to wish him a happy birthday on FB, even I did. What has bothered me is that she did it at 12:12am and was the first post on his page to wish him HB. It kinda rubbed me the wrong way, is that something I should worry about. Sometimes, I just happen to be awake late and see the birthday announcement, and am the first person to wish a friend happy birthday. It doesn't necessarily mean anything, it's just a birthday wish. I would, however, be concerned about the fact that she hasn't seemed to push very hard for the divorce. What's holding HER back? Edited February 12, 2013 by shystrawberry
Author Niteowl1970 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 In the beginning she said that she didn't want to get him in trouble with the courts, there was also hime promising to do it several times and her believing that he would, but then he never did. The only 2 things holding up the divorce is his financial afidavit so they can figure out support, and in florida your required to take a parenting class to get a divorce neither of which he has done. The final straw for her was him promising that he was going to do both as a christmas present for us, then he never did. At the beginning of january she petitioned the court to force him to do the paperwork and take the class. They set a final hearing for the divorce on 4-8, and told him to have everything done or be held in contempt.
goodmanz Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 The guy is just a prick and he's dragging his feet. Next time you talk to him (if you aren't a wuss) tell him that you don't appreciate him admitting to your Fiance' that he's been waiting for you two to have a fallout, and that from now on, anything that concerns the two of you should be said directly to your face. This man doesn't respect you. As far as her talking to him goes, she seems like she's just trying to be mature and end it on a friendly basis. No need to get all insecure over a facebook comment that probably meant nothing to her and she was just doing it to stay on good terms with him so he'll live up to the end of his deal. To be honest it sounds like she's anxious to get him off your guys' back so she can marry you. The best way to get him off your backs is to play nice so he'll comply. But don't allow him to disrespect you and your relationship. That's where you need to draw the line.
animalover Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I have been dating my Fiancee for 2 years now, the only reason we have not been married already is because she is still married. He has been dragging his feet for a year now, stalling the divorce (not doing his financial affidavit or parenting classes required in florida). He has admitted to her that he was doing it on purpose in hopes that something would happen between her and I, then she would run back to him. With all that said, they still communicate with regards to the 2 kids they have together and are on a friendly basis, I sometimes talk to him myself. His birthday was today, and I assumed she was going to wish him a happy birthday on FB, even I did. What has bothered me is that she did it at 12:12am and was the first post on his page to wish him HB. It kinda rubbed me the wrong way, is that something I should worry about. Mmmm so you are in a relationship with this woman 2 years and her husband has been dragging his feet for a year on the divorce? Should I assume that you had an affair with this woman when she was still married and living with her husband? If that is the case... the painful truth is that most of the times when a cheater leaves the partner for the om/ow, the cheater will also cheat on the new partner... is a kind of nature making justice thing.... If that is not the case... then please accept my apologies and if I would be you I would have a serious talk with your girlfriend about the boundaries she needs to have in her relationship with her ex husband!
strawberryshortstack Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 In the beginning she said that she didn't want to get him in trouble with the courts, there was also hime promising to do it several times and her believing that he would, but then he never did. The only 2 things holding up the divorce is his financial afidavit so they can figure out support, and in florida your required to take a parenting class to get a divorce neither of which he has done. The final straw for her was him promising that he was going to do both as a christmas present for us, then he never did. At the beginning of january she petitioned the court to force him to do the paperwork and take the class. They set a final hearing for the divorce on 4-8, and told him to have everything done or be held in contempt. Well, in that case, I say don't worry about the facebook thing. But Animalover did bring up an interesting point below your last post - if she cheated on her husband with you, chances are, she'll cheat on you with someone else. So keep that in mind.
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