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Hi loveshackers,

 

Went on a date the other night with a guy i had been speaking to online.It went really well and we seemed to click,but i ended up having to stay at his as i couldn't get home (had no money for hotel) so it was a rather long first date! I slept in his bed and we kissed (he instigated this) but i stopped before anything else happened (whether he wanted it to or not i am not sure but he didn't appear suggestive)

 

Anyway,he has been texting me abit since..afew times each day.He is quite chatty,but not really flirty or anything and doesn't put kisses on his texts.I am trying to play it cool and let him do the work.He has asked to meet up and spend a couple of days together later this week (including over valentines day) which i guess is a good sign.

 

Only thing is,i logged into the online site i met him on earlier and saw he had been using it since our date as he had changed some details on his profile.

Admittedly the details were no longer relevant so technically needed changing...but guess i kinda hoped he wouldn't be bothered enough to go on there and change it! He changed his headline to 'strive for perfection' and i am not sure what to think about that :-/

 

I know he has the right to go on there as it's not like we are together,but i guess i had hoped he wouldn't want to as i haven't.

 

Is he not into me or am i being paranoid and seeing too much into this? X

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Hi loveshackers,Went on a date the other night with a guy i had been speaking to online.It went really well and we seemed to click,but i ended up having to stay at his as i couldn't get home (had no money for hotel) so it was a rather long first date! I slept in his bed and we kissed (he instigated this) but i stopped before anything else happened (whether he wanted it to or not i am not sure but he didn't appear suggestive)

 

What the...? Why couldn't you go home? In the future please don't stay over a guy's house on your first date. Not only does it not set a good precedent, but it just isn't safe. I don't care how many online conversations you had with him -- he is still a stranger. You shouldn't be going to his house, period, on a first date. Obviously in this case nothing happened, so you are lucky. If the two of you live far away from each other, you should be meeting halfway.

 

Anyway,he has been texting me abit since..afew times each day.He is quite chatty,but not really flirty or anything and doesn't put kisses on his texts.

 

I don't know any men who put kisses in their texts, so I think you are fine.

 

I am trying to play it cool and let him do the work.He has asked to meet up and spend a couple of days together later this week (including over valentines day) which i guess is a good sign.

 

See...he's already planning the next overnight visit. Please, please don't do this. Make him come to you. Or meet him halfway. Stop the overnight dates. It's way too soon. You are already getting attached to him. Your oxytocin is going crazy. Protect your heart, girl!

 

Only thing is,i logged into the online site i met him on earlier and saw he had been using it since our date as he had changed some details on his profile. Admittedly the details were no longer relevant so technically needed changing...but guess i kinda hoped he wouldn't be bothered enough to go on there and change it! He changed his headline to 'strive for perfection' and i am not sure what to think about that :-/

 

You aren't exclusive, and he is likely still dating others. So, he can do whatever he wants with his profile. Keep that in mind when you are considering whether to sleep in his bed again in the near future.

 

Is he not into me or am i being paranoid and seeing too much into this? X

 

Well, you've had one date and it sounds like he wants to see you again. That's all good. Will this lead to a relationship? Who knows? Just go with the flow and relax.

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