Joby72 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Hi everyone I'm having a hard time with my break up I was seeing him for 6 months but totally fell for him, he is separated and going through a divorce he talked about his ex all the time and does loads for her which he says he does to stay amicable, this put strain on our relationship and he ended it saying he has to many issues and baggage and the situation was bound to get worse not better, I told him I loved him and he said he didn't love me although he says we have this physical attraction and says we have a chemistry he knows he can't love me, he says he wants to be friends and at first agreed to this but he recently told me he is dating someone else because he wanted to be honest with me and after 3 dates he has introduced her to his daughter, I was with him 6 month and he never wanted his ex or daughter To know about me incase the ex wife went mad and got shirty over the divorce, when I asked him how come you told your ex and daughter about her but not me he said because the situation is different now and the ex wife has a fella now, I told him how upset I was and that I couldn't speak to him again now and told him never to intact me again, he said he wanted to call me and I said no, then he said he is sad that I want nothing more to do with him and don't think for a minute she is getting everything you never had because that's not true or right in any way, he said he doesn't laugh the way we did, he has lost his colleague I crime and he doesn't have that immediate rapport he know he has thrown away something amazing and he doesn't know why and that he was crying, so I rang him to say goodbye and he said he's really gonna miss me and cried, why is he saying this if he doesn't want me
jovan Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Well, it can be so many things... but pull the plug. And go NC. If he wants you he will ask you back
Author Joby72 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 Thanks Jovan it's the 3rd day today of Nc and its killing me not to send a message but I'm determined this time, in the past I have tried this but never ever managed to get through the day without a message or if I have gone to long he would text me...I think he liked the idea I still wanted him and would often say things that I would respond with "we'll you should be with me" and he would say "I was waiting for that" he recently went to china on business and bought me a lovely bag and I'm not even with him so why do these things I'm so confused
lovecutsrightthruu Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Sounds like he is confused. Is he still seeing the other woman? If yes, things may be on the rocks and he may be trying to keep his options open by keeping the lines of communication open with you. Overall he has treated you unfairly and I wouldn't stand for it if I was you.
lovecutsrightthruu Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 also you say you're going NC. What have you blocked him on? TaraMaiden has a great guide on NC attached to her signature - look up her user name using the search feature and read the NC guide.
Author Joby72 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 hi i havent blocked him on anything he doesnt use fb or twitter or anything else like that...when i spoke to him a few days ago i asked him questions about his new woman and he felt a little awkward answering me so i said listen you dont sound so keen on her and he said yes i know.....i know, i used to live quite far away from him so only got to see him once a week maybe twice but she only lives a few miles away and he only sees her the same, i asked him if he was dating her because he was ready to move on or because it makes it easier to move on and he said well its the only way to move on, hes already comparing us if he says he doesnt laugh the way that we did, and he doesnt have his colleague in crime and he doesnt have that immediate rapport, so maybe he is missing me
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