131313 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 I'm ending a horrific relationship that I should have gotten out of long ago. I've made several attempts to leave recently but always broke down after a few days and went back. Any words of advice for someone in emotional turmoil, who is trying to do the right thing and have it be final? I posted a comment on someone else's post trying to empathize and was told "misery loves company" so I'm not certain I can get support here, or if I'm just going to get beat up more than I can beat myself up. I couldn't possibly feel any lower about myself at this point. My self esteem is in the toilet at the very time I need to be my strongest.
SharkTooth Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 I don't know much about your situation so it's difficult to try and help. I have known 3 woman who stayed in abusive relationships. I actually knew them quite well. That was as long ago as 10 years. Every single one of them had finally gotten out of their relationships but it was just to late. They are all a mess. Bitter, unhappy, extreme low self esteem, alcoholic, no job, don't care about anything. Very sad... My advice if you happen to be in an abusive relationship as a woman. Run for your life! And run now! Make sure you have a very solid support group that will be there for you in the next year. You will need that! Super important! I wish you the best
summer90 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 It makes you feel great and not lonely anymore EVERYTIME you go back to him right? That's why you can't do the break up properly, because you're scared, afraid of being lonely. I was in a long relationship where at the end we were trying so hard to break up but always ended up goign back to each other because we were both scared of being alone. But one day I decided this can no longer carry on because it's doing me 100% harm and no good, its hard ffor the first few weeks but maintain zero contact, don't talk to him no matter how hard he tries, then eventually you'll get over him. Also meeting someone new will help, hang out with friends etc.
Author 131313 Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 Thank you for your kind words. He's never physically abused me. He just cheated on me for a good part of our relationship and I feel beat down. I tried to get over it, we even went to counseling, I just can't. I'm in this limbo stage of moving out and no contact and I am just scatterbrained and sad. I know it will get easier but today is like day 3 of me making the decision to leave and this is usually where I backtrack so I posted on here hoping for encouragement to stick with my decision.
Author 131313 Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 All my friends are sick of listening to me. I feel pretty stupid at this point. I wish I could just sleep for a month.
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