LostGirl11 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 I'm not sure if it's the whole being rejected thing but I've been feeling weird. I feel as though I'm an annoyance, irritating and that nobody will ever want me. Everybody knows someone that people can't wait to get away from, that person that doesn't belong anywhere because they're just too much. I'm the girl. Well that's how I feel. It makes me cringe and dislike myself. I want to get away from me. Did anyone else feel like this? 1
pteromom Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 What exactly is it you dislike about yourself? It could be just that you are hanging around the wrong people.
Author LostGirl11 Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 I'm probably not making much sense. Since the break up I feel like I'm an annoyance. I don't know, I can't explain it, sorry. 1
H3Drvr Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 You are probably feeling the effects of diminished/low self confidence. The dumpee usually feels this sense of worthlessness. Like you were discarded with yesterday's trash. You feel out of place, not normal, not yourself. Totally normal. You do have value, you are worth something, you will be better. Just the fact that I (an others) am responding to your post should be an indication that you have value.
na49 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 I feel like that guy right now. I don't feel like I'm annoying, but I feel like everyone hates me when I'm walking around campus. I feel like no one wants to talk to me and are annoyed when I talk to them. Like I'm bothering them in a bad way. I feel like I wear a sign around my neck that says "Yes she dumped me" and everyone knows me just because of my ex and how social she is and how not social I am. Like if I didn't date her for the time we've been in college, I'd literally be no one. and now that I don't have her. I'm a no one again. I could not show up for a month, and no one would notice. Having a rough day today. Sorry for venting in your thread lol.
Author LostGirl11 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 Nobody has told me that I'm that girl. I just feel that way because I couldn't hold down a relationship. Getting me down.
jovan Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Well you can't hold something that's unholdble
Mayfare Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 When my ex and I broke up I felt literally unlovable. I actually remember thinking that it's not possible for someone to really love me. Sure, I'm okay company, but that doesn't mean I'm loved. After some time (not very much at all, thank God), I realized that was just ridiculous. I have a dysfunctional family and my boyfriend dumped me, so obviously I was going to feel very alone. The truth is though, the problems in the relationship really had to do more with him than me, and in the long run I know that I'm better off without him and will find better. What helped this pass so quickly was that I thought about all the things I loved about myself. I love that I'm hardworking, independent, a little wild, and an extremely loyal and loving friend. I stopped wondering what I could have done different in the relationship and what would have kept us together, and accepted that he chose to end it instead of communicating or working on things. There's nothing wrong with me, and I want to be with someone that knows that and appreciates that.
flitzanu Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I'm not sure if it's the whole being rejected thing but I've been feeling weird. I feel as though I'm an annoyance, irritating and that nobody will ever want me. Everybody knows someone that people can't wait to get away from, that person that doesn't belong anywhere because they're just too much. I'm the girl. Well that's how I feel. It makes me cringe and dislike myself. I want to get away from me. Did anyone else feel like this? in your group of friends, do you have someone that everyone hates? if not, then it might be you. just kidding. yes, it's pretty normal to feel unimportant or unwanted after feeling rejection. you just need to find your confidence again.
Author LostGirl11 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 in your group of friends, do you have someone that everyone hates? if not, then it might be you. just kidding. yes, it's pretty normal to feel unimportant or unwanted after feeling rejection. you just need to find your confidence again. Sorry, that was a bad example. Just feel like I won't ever be special to anyone.
flitzanu Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Sorry, that was a bad example. Just feel like I won't ever be special to anyone. you will be. just because one single person out of 6 billion doesn't want you, that doesn't ruin your chances of someone else thinking you're special
Author LostGirl11 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 you will be. just because one single person out of 6 billion doesn't want you, that doesn't ruin your chances of someone else thinking you're special I guess so. Having a rough couple of days. Feels like day one, pain in the chest, ache in my throat, crying like a baby. Thanks though Mr flitz. 1
KatZee Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I get what you're saying. I've been FINE and moved on from my ex but I saw something on Facebook (always FB isn't it?) and it just like made me feel weird. Not sad and in so much pain like you... but what I saw (if I can make this as clear as I can)... was the ex-gf of my ex-bf's cousin, wishing my ex's brother and sister-in-law a happy birthday (same day). Meanwhile I didn't get a happy birthday when mine came around... why? What's so wrong with me? I don't get why I was the one so iced out when I was nothing but nice to everyone and then you get made to feel like you're a piece of s.hit and not worth a minute of anyone's time.
Debbie2508 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Hi Lostgirl,sorry you're having a bad day,hopefully tomorrow will be better. I know just how you feel. I've never had much self confidence,and the fact that this amazing person(my ex)fell in love with me,made me feel that i must actually be not so bad after all. Now he's left,what does that say about me?! I tell myself,as I'm sure you've done also,that he did love me in the first place,and if he did,others will too.But then I wonder what happened to make him fall out of love with me. I think we're both probably over thinking and obsessing over everything atm. I'm certain that nobody thinks any the less of you,your friends are just worried about you and feel helpless that you're so upset,and wish there was something they could do to help.
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