lawboy46 Posted August 30, 2004 Posted August 30, 2004 hello everyone. i dated my ex for 1.5 years. she left me about a month ago. it's the third time in about 4 months that she has broken up with me but in the past we communicated during the breakup and she has come back the first two times. i think we both just weren't clicking like we did in the first half of the relationship in college and were both holding onto the possibility our circumstances would get better out of the fact that we cared for each other and had great chemistry. it was the longest relationship she's ever had and she was definitely the greatest girl i ever met. not to sound cliche, but i felt so much that she made me a better guy and truly completed me. however, our last breakup was not smooth. i was so angry she was dumping me again and yelled on the phone with her about it. we hung up in bad spirits and have not spoken since (about a month). During this month i've sent her two separate text messages. the first toward the beginning of the breakup said "i miss talking to you" and last one a few days ago said "just wanted to say hi. thinkin of ya." i have not heard from her since our breakup and never got a reply to any message sent. dispite our breakups i miss her greatly and wonder if anyone thinks we'll get back together one day in the future and what i could do to help it. whether or not she is a great girl is debatable. what i do know is that she was a great girl for me. please, give me advice. i need hope and honesty.
cassrat Posted August 30, 2004 Posted August 30, 2004 hey I'm really sorry to hear about your recent break up. Do you know why she broke up or why it wasn't working. Do you have any idea why this may be easier for her? If she is not replying to you then she is either busy or has moved on as hard as that is to hear. She probably hasn't moved on all the way, but she might be heading in that direction. You might text her one more time. ONLY ONE MORE TIME, and say something like "I really dot want us to end this relationship on bad terms. We had allot of great times together and you are an awesome girl. I hope that we can still keep in touch and I hope that you get all the happiness in life that you deserve". Then do your best to accept the situation and move on. If she really cares about you or is still in love with you she will reply. Maybe not immediately.
hurtingandconfused Posted August 30, 2004 Posted August 30, 2004 I disagree with Cassrat. She doesn't respond to your text messages because she is trying to move on. She still has feelings for you, and if she talks to you again she might give in. (Bad way of getting someone back.) Do not text her again. Let her contact you. Let her miss you. Move on. You have hope, you have yourself.
snilljente Posted August 30, 2004 Posted August 30, 2004 No matter why other people decide to stop returning/acknowledging messages, it is very cruel and selfish behavior...they are focused only on their own perspective and their own life/feelings.....I think it is cruel and that a decent person will come right out and say that they are confused, need time, want no contact for a period of time, or whatever the case may be...just ignoring someone without an explanation is unkind and immature.
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