girlunchained Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 (edited) The subject should read LDR* Whoops. My now ex-bf and I did long distance for about 8 months. We were only together about a month before I returned from England to the States, but we'd known each other before that and had many mutual friends. We began keeping in touch more and more seriously after I left, but didn't want to make the distance official. Things got more serious as I booked a plane ticket to see him in December, and when I finally did visit a month ago, things were incredible. When we left, he said he still had doubts about his ability to do distance because he's always had trouble with texting/skyping and finding time dedicated to those things, but that I was worth trying for. Yesterday, after a month of trying, he said he wanted a clean break from the distance and not even to do what we did last semester of not being official but keeping in touch frequently. He said it's been stressful for him, and he loves me and doesn't want us out of each other's lives completely. Because I'm moving to England in late August and we wouldn't have to do LD anymore, we want to keep the option of getting back together open. May is the earliest we can visit each other, so we decided to revisit the situation in April after we've had some time to focus on ourselves instead of the relationship. He said looking back when we're happy and back together, we'll feel like this was the best decision we could have made and prevent us from feeling resentment towards one another. He said he doesn't want anyone as his GF but me and wants us to get back together in a couple months. I have to admit, I was starting to feel stressed out myself with trying to balance the relationship, my school work (writing a thesis is awful), two jobs, family, friends, etc. I love him so dearly and think he might be my soul mate, but I'm scared he'll just forget about me in a month and never look back. Has anyone experienced a situation like this before and had a success? Because we broke up because of the distance, does a reconciliation in April sound feasible or am I crazy for feeling genuinely hopeful? Edited February 11, 2013 by girlunchained Typo in subject line
KoKo0 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I'm in a very similar situation, I met a guy through mutual friends back home, we spent the whole summer together night and day. I had to leave mid October to the States, but I will be going back home in a month, mid-March. We left off on a good note, he said he wanted to be with me, he will wait for me till I come back, and that I was his soulmate. I feel as well that he is my soulmate, we do not talk much, over the past 4 months we have spoken just a few times, maybe 3-4 over the phone. He can't cope with the skyping and such, something a long the lines as your significant other. If he has strong feelings for you, he will wait it out one more month and will be home with him. If he has changed then it is his loss and you can't change how someone feels, but I think feelings will spark once you two reunite. I am also hoping for the same as you, too bad it hasn't happened yet so I can actually give you some insight but I think whatever happens will happen for a reason. Good luck
Author girlunchained Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 I'm in a very similar situation, I met a guy through mutual friends back home, we spent the whole summer together night and day. I had to leave mid October to the States, but I will be going back home in a month, mid-March. We left off on a good note, he said he wanted to be with me, he will wait for me till I come back, and that I was his soulmate. I feel as well that he is my soulmate, we do not talk much, over the past 4 months we have spoken just a few times, maybe 3-4 over the phone. He can't cope with the skyping and such, something a long the lines as your significant other. If he has strong feelings for you, he will wait it out one more month and will be home with him. If he has changed then it is his loss and you can't change how someone feels, but I think feelings will spark once you two reunite. I am also hoping for the same as you, too bad it hasn't happened yet so I can actually give you some insight but I think whatever happens will happen for a reason. Good luck It sounds like your situation is so similar-I definitely think it would be good if we had space and time to recharge from the stress during March and save the bigger, serious talk until April. But that being said I'd like to speak throughout March and keep in contact. Don't want him to forget about me :/ Good luck to you too! You're so close to being back
KoKo0 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 He is not going to forget aboutyou , it just one month .. and yes you should save the big talk when you see him face-to-face. In the meantime, exchange a few messages just to let him know you're thinking of him. :o
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