lovehurts5 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Boyfriend of 2 months asked me for $2500 because he's having money trouble.... He's a bartender I'm a substitute teacher. I hardly make any money but have an ok amount saved. He says hell pay me back each week. I'm mad that he's put this on me because I feel bad saying no since I'm the only one hes got. And I refuse to cosign anything. Thoughts?
animalover Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Boyfriend of 2 months asked me for $2500 because he's having money trouble.... He's a bartender I'm a substitute teacher. I hardly make any money but have an ok amount saved. He says hell pay me back each week. I'm mad that he's put this on me because I feel bad saying no since I'm the only one hes got. And I refuse to cosign anything. Thoughts? Uff.... that is really big trouble! I guess you should go with your gut feeling! You are only 2 months together so it is pretty early in the relationship to feel comfortable lending that kind of money to anyone .... doesn't he have a family or friends who can help him in this case? I think it is pretty strong to ask a girlfriend of 2 moths for money... but if you are the only option he has ... I guess as I said before you will need to go with your gut feeling about this one!
SoulSearcher22 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 2 months? this is such a bad situation...because if you do it..you are pretty invested now. If you don't...he will have bad feelings for it. Personally...I wouldnt but would try to suggest something else. Not sure what though
Emilia Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 I would not lend money to anyone I have known for only 2 months. I'm guessing you don't even know what it's for?
clia Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Thoughts? Do not loan him any money and do not cosign anything. I'm fairly confident you will never see a dime of that money again if you do. Also, consider this: Doesn't he have friends or family he can get the money from? Why is he asking you, a person he just met two months ago, for that amount of money? Doesn't that seem fishy to you? Can you imagine asking someone you basically just met for thousands of dollars? Just say no. You don't even have to explain anything. 1
xpaperxcutx Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 What does he need the money for? $2500 is not a small amount and I don't see why he felt he had the right to ask you just because you're his girlfriend. Even at 2 months the two of you are just getting to know each other and I don't see why he would think you be okay to co-sign anything with him. I dated my ex for 4-5 months and even when he needed money, he went to his friends rather than me.
neveragain34 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 This is a HUGE RED FLAG! Not only would I not lend him the money, I'd also dump him. Asking you so early on shows a lot about his character. His finances must really be in trouble for him to do this, which is a bad sign. Financial problems often signify problems in other areas of your life as well.
its a lifestyle Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 If you have it... lent it to him If you don't have it... explain that In your case, you do... I'm sure he'll be thankful and appreciate the somewhat extravagant generosity There's many bitter people on here, they'll point out "red flags" and start talking about how to never date somebody with a financial issues or tell you he's out of order for asking you... 2 months in, yeah that is somewhat early for such an ask, and personally I wouldn't ask such a thing even if I needed it... it wouldn't even enter my mind to ask my GF of 2 months, but me and your BF are obviously different in that sense... regardless, if he's the type to ask I think he'd also be the type to do it for you if the tables were turned... and I'd rather look at what this says about you rather than what it says about him, you're clearly a very cool person if you do help him out.
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