Jingle14 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 And the closer it gets, the more dispondent I feel. I have plans for the day - hopefully a lovely morning cuddle off my 11 year old son before he goes to school and then out with a friend for an overnight trip to a fun place and with fun activities planned. But. I know I won't get a message from him - 100% positive, I didn't on my birthday last year, or at Christmas, he has never once initiated contact since our split - but there will still be that false hope and the sadness when one doesn't come, the sadness that I just don't matter a **** anymore. Especially now - so far as I know, and I don't pry because I don't want to know for sure one way or the other - he is still with the bitch he replaced me with. Don't expect she would like to know about the 1 hour hug we had last year when he held me tightly and reminisced about our times (including physical) together. I've never ever done that with an ex, especially not one that I had dumped. I know it's just a day but it's a day I wish he was sharing with me.
hopefullove Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Hi Jingle. look think of it this way its your birthday. and he doesnt say anything. that should be your sign. that he is a jerk and he doesnt care and it hurts that he doesnt care. but take it all in. he doesn't care. it's not false hope if he doesnt contact you. its GREAT if he doesnt contact you.. you know? its like... oh yeah, wow. that's great. cus why do you want to be with someone who cares so little about you. everyone says this to me. so i will say it to you. you deserve better! 1
Debbie2508 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 We'll all be thinking of you,Jingle Had a bad day today,been stupidly remembering the good times....until reading your post,which reminded me of my birthday last year.We'd been awake in bed for about 20 mins,when he finally said "Oh,happy birthday by the way"!! So thanks Jingle....although the reality check won't last,nowing me:sick: 1
lilacwine Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Happy Birthday Jingle!!! I hope you will meet that someone special soon, someone who can completely erase the ghost of your ex from your mind forever. 1
Author Jingle14 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 Thanks Lilac, that would be nice. Already feeling gloomy though and it's only 46 minutes into my birthday (and have posted on the 'post here instead of contacting your ex' thread). Hope the dreaded Valentine's thing isn't too unbearable for you x
Debbie2508 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Happy Birthday Jingle. Hope you have a lovely, distracting day x 1
lilacwine Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Hi Jingle, so how is your birthday? Having fun? Do you hear from him at all (i know it's a very slim chance but you never know). 1
Sav Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 It's better not to hear than to hear from them. My birthday is today and my ex just texted me wishing me. It did not make me happy at all. I'd prefer silence on her part and I would love it if she would just fade away. On a lighter note, I deactivated my facebook acc to prevent spam on my phone for my birthday. However, tons of people still wish me happy birthday through whatsapp and texting and THAT is worth more than whatever message my ex could send me. Honestly, these wishes actually made my day . So be thankful for what you have and appreciate those little things around you! Your ex is what he (she) is, an ex, and will forever be an ex. Friends however, stick by you through thick and thin so get out there and have fun! 1
lilacwine Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 It's better not to hear than to hear from them. My birthday is today and my ex just texted me wishing me. It did not make me happy at all. I'd prefer silence on her part and I would love it if she would just fade away. On a lighter note, I deactivated my facebook acc to prevent spam on my phone for my birthday. However, tons of people still wish me happy birthday through whatsapp and texting and THAT is worth more than whatever message my ex could send me. Honestly, these wishes actually made my day . So be thankful for what you have and appreciate those little things around you! Your ex is what he (she) is, an ex, and will forever be an ex. Friends however, stick by you through thick and thin so get out there and have fun! Did you reply to your ex's text though?
Sav Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Yes I did. My exact words : Hey thanks, you too. Simple, Courteous and easy. I left no opening for her to continue messaging. That's how it should be. Be courteous yet let her understand you are not interested in continuing conversing. Do I still think of her? Hell yea, she was a great girl. But in no way do I want to have a relationship with her now and this thought has been keeping me going on strong. 1
lilacwine Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Yes I did. My exact words : Hey thanks, you too. Simple, Courteous and easy. I left no opening for her to continue messaging. That's how it should be. Be courteous yet let her understand you are not interested in continuing conversing. Do I still think of her? Hell yea, she was a great girl. But in no way do I want to have a relationship with her now and this thought has been keeping me going on strong. She's a great girl and so why did you guy break up? She dumped you, I suppose??
Sav Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 Yup, she did. But I totally understand. I mean at the age of 19 what are we sposed to do? Expect to last till 90? It's highly improbable especially at this generation. People grow up and feelings change, it's the cycle of life and you just gotta roll with the punches
Author Jingle14 Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 Hi Jingle, so how is your birthday? Having fun? Do you hear from him at all (i know it's a very slim chance but you never know). Hi Lilac, no I didn't. Big surprise eh?! Birthday was ok, thanks, nice gifts and big hugs from my son
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