rocksinger Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 I had met a wonderful woman at work. We became very close friends due to our similar tastes in music and both having a musical background. The problem was she was engaged. We were always the best of friends. and somewhere it became more than that. Now I never thought anything would come of this. One day I got a text saying her fiance had left her and she needed a safe place to go. Naturally I let her come to my place. Needless to say we made love for the next 24 hours. Professed our love for each other. And made plans to be together. She went home and when he came back they had agreed to stay together for thier child. I gracefully stepped aside because a child was involved. It was only a while later when they began fighting again and she came for solace in my arms. The next month unbenounced to me she began seeing someone else from work. While we were still spending time together. He was married and had 3 children and left his wife for her. I was devastated. She began coming to work with visible bruises on her face and when I asked her about them she blames his post traumatic stress disorder for it all. He told the HR dept I threatened him and I was fired for trying to protect my friend. Fast forward to 5 months later. She finally got rid of him due to his PTSD. And is trying to get back with her fiance'. She told him about our affair and he is pissed as he should be. I'm still in love with her and feel empty inside because I've lost my job,my best friend, and the love of my life.
Sloan Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 All I am going to say is if a relationship starts out badly its going to end badly and I think your seeing this now. I think the "right" thing for you is to move on because having an affair is a horrible thing and sometimes when breakups happen people can do stupid things that they might of wouldn't have done if they were thinking with their head straight. All in all, why would you want to be with someone who was engaged but slept with someone else, I am not trying to be rude about it but you should want someone with better morals.
Author rocksinger Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 SLOAN, thanks for putting things in perspective. I have been single for 13 years by choice and became enamored with this woman. I was warned about her and didnt listen to good friends about how her mind works. Or how it doesnt. I would still like to be her friend but I dont know if that is possible. What do you think?
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