AverageCat Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 (edited) Am I too in my head and think this is clingy? Usually I have a really busy life and don't have time to "show appreciation over txt" (I DO do it in person though). But anyway, to this new chick Ive been sleeping with I wanted to show her that I could be a potential bf other than a good **** so I txted (after the 8-9 time we slept together). "Good morning little brat :)". For 2 days after we went out for 2 consecutive days. What would you think if a guy youve been seeing casually sent u that. The convo usually ended up being flirty and teasing throughout the day (9-10 txts throughout) GRRRRRR.... I HATE TEXTINGGG Edited February 11, 2013 by AverageCat
Archgirl Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Isn't that what guys usually do? I'd think he liked me for more than just a casual **** And it's even better coz you weren't overly sweet and needy but funny and teasing in the text. Stop stressing, go with your instincts and stop second guessing, she's slept with you nine times, sending a next morning text is waaaay overdue. NOT clingy 1
TaraMaiden Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Am I too in my head and think this is clingy? Usually I have a really busy life and don't have time to "show appreciation over txt" (I DO do it in person though). But anyway, to this new chick Ive been sleeping with I wanted to show her that I could be a potential bf other than a good **** so I txted (after the 8-9 time we slept together). "Good morning little brat :)". For 2 days after we went out for 2 consecutive days. What would you think if a guy youve been seeing casually sent u that. The convo usually ended up being flirty and teasing throughout the day (9-10 txts throughout) GRRRRRR.... I HATE TEXTINGGG Then why text!!?? Why not - here's radical - actually CALL her and say that to her...? Why not actually engage with her vocally, and speak with her?? I would think that would be even more of an indication of what feelings you want to convey. I hate texting - when speaking would be so much more appropriate!!! 2
soccerrprp Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 AverageCat, I agree with both earlier posters. I also find that people who say that they don't like texting do it for their own purposes and find that it can be a very convenient tool when used appropriately. You say you're too busy, but too busy to text? Not too busy to talk where a quick "good morning" could turn into a full-fledged conversation? Learn to use it as an effective tool to fit your needs. I do. 1
candie13 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 texting is fine - I avoid calls like the plague, but I'm a bit weird, like that! the only way you can tell if you went overboard or not is by looking at her answer - did she use the same tone, was she happy to hear from you, etc. In the end, texting is great to keep in touch, but most important thing is to get dates . if you like her, maybe you'd want to do stuff where the amount of time outside bed isn't inferior or barely equal to the amount of time you spent in it . enjoy 1
Author AverageCat Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 texting is fine - I avoid calls like the plague, but I'm a bit weird, like that! the only way you can tell if you went overboard or not is by looking at her answer - did she use the same tone, was she happy to hear from you, etc. In the end, texting is great to keep in touch, but most important thing is to get dates . if you like her, maybe you'd want to do stuff where the amount of time outside bed isn't inferior or barely equal to the amount of time you spent in it . enjoy I have just never done dates in my life. Just bedding. And the cool things I wanna do (to which I could appreciate a girls company are outdoors) - cliff diving, walking on a park, the beach, camping, etc. all require good weather. Winter and cold I can think only about parties, concerts and maybe snowboarding. I don't particularly like restaurants or theatres. I'd rather eat and watch in the comfort of my bed.
Jabba Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Sex 8-9 x? Surprise! You're in a relationship! 3
Archgirl Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Oh you're soooo sneaky! Making me give you advice on the same sitch in two different threads! Waiting until the 9th time you've ****** her to send a next morning text is NOT upping your game btw I hope you stayed the night! 2
sweetkiwi Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Texting good morning and good night is appreciated greatly. My ex hates texting. But he knew that I just liked hearing from him. Even if I didn't respond, the thought was received. 2
Author AverageCat Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 Texting good morning and good night is appreciated greatly. My ex hates texting. But he knew that I just liked hearing from him. Even if I didn't respond, the thought was received. Do you ever text him good morning or good night though? I mean was there an equality of text initiating? What Im thinking is WhyThe**** should I text good morning after a night of sex and not her -.-' 1
Author AverageCat Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 Oh you're soooo sneaky! Making me give you advice on the same sitch in two different threads! Waiting until the 9th time you've ****** her to send a next morning text is NOT upping your game btw I hope you stayed the night! . You're a smart chick. You figured out my masterplan. I have her stay the night. Im just not good at texting. Texting something like "how was your day" sounds so stupid to me... I'd rather just drive up and grab a coffee. EDIT: Im also giving you lots of likes just so you keep answering . all part of the masterplan 1
sweetkiwi Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Do you ever text him good morning or good night though? I mean was there an equality of text initiating? What Im thinking is WhyThe**** should I text good morning after a night of sex and not her -.-' On the days we didn't stay together, when I woke up in my own bed, he woke up early for work and sent me a text. On the days we stayed together, when I woke up in his bed, I sent him a good morning text and asked him what he wanted for lunch when he got home. I know he hated texting. Didn't even respond to his best friends 80% of the time. So I didn't text him much. And he knew I liked texting him so he would text me sometimes. 1
Author AverageCat Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 On the days we didn't stay together, when I woke up in my own bed, he woke up early for work and sent me a text. On the days we stayed together, when I woke up in his bed, I sent him a good morning text and asked him what he wanted for lunch when he got home. I know he hated texting. Didn't even respond to his best friends 80% of the time. So I didn't text him much. And he knew I liked texting him so he would text me sometimes. This is amazing
Archgirl Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Yeah. And that's why you need to be the one to text her the next day to begin with, coz it shows you care and want to be more than a fb man-with-the-plan
Archgirl Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Oh and also: then don't ask her how her day was, just say something you might say in person like you did already - that was cool, I'd be charmed. MORE LIKES PLEASE
Author AverageCat Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 Oh and also: then don't ask her how her day was, just say something you might say in person like you did already - that was cool, I'd be charmed. MORE LIKES PLEASE What can I say. Im a natural charmer Likes should be free, but since I am really self centered I ll ask for a virtual hug for each like : )
Author AverageCat Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 Yeah. And that's why you need to be the one to text her the next day to begin with, coz it shows you care and want to be more than a fb man-with-the-plan Seriously though. I understand ME. But what about her? Shouldnt she be showing some of this too?
Archgirl Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Not yet, you've just said you'd always just ****** before, she'll be aware of that an playing it cool so she doesn't scare you off, if she's into you. You're the one that wants to change the rules sunshine, so you've got to be the one doing stuff to change things. 1
Archgirl Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 What can I say. Im a natural charmer Likes should be free, but since I am really self centered I ll ask for a virtual hug for each like : ) I dunno, not sure that's a fair deal Mr Charming, I'm pretty awesome, my hugs are definitely worth more ;p I think I need likes AND more compliments 1
Author AverageCat Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 Sex 8-9 x? Surprise! You're in a relationship! Funny story is I wish, but we're not exclusive... although I haven't slept with other people in a few weeks and her in some months.
candie13 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 great answer! continue doing what you're doing and you'll get there !!
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