ThisTypeOfThinking Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Hi all, In the last few months, I've been hitting up the apartment gym in efforts to get in great shape to chase a dream I have (play football). I'm in a very awkward situation, living with my ex for the next 6 months (we have our own rooms). Well I have a workout buddy that goes with me. We hit up the gym 5-6 days a week. We're newfound gymrats, but for necessity. He was obese, has lost a substantial amount of weight but still kinda big. I had been fat all my life, made fun of, etc. Combine that with anxiety issues and my life sucked in high school. Now that you have a small back story, here's the meat of the issue. My buddy is almost always commenting on girls/women "checking" me out at the gym. I've always dismissed him as just trying to give me an ego boost out of niceness. However one there has been one girl who's kinda caught my eye. He tells me she keeps checking me out. I just shrug it off with a chuckle, until one time I threw a glance her way and she was on the treadmill and had caught her looking right at me and quickly turned her head when our eyes met. I felt weird, but in a good way. Like kinda excited that she would look my way, but absolutely powerless and stupid as to what I should do/think. She is very cute, I think I'm an ok looking guy, kinda have the tall dark look going on (6'2 216lbs dark hair). At one point I was at 300 lbs and like I've mentioned I used to have anxiety problems and insecurity about my weight. Throw in the fact that I was a late bloomer (ex and I met when I was 23, she was my first gf and we were together 3+ years, I'm now 27). I really don't know how to flirt or how to interpret if this would be a form of flirting. I don't think its polite to interrupt her workout (I wouldn't mind if she interrupted mine lol), but I haven't had the opportunity to catch her while we both weren't working out. Would being "checked out" be means to approach someoine anyways?
kdobbs Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Pulling at the gym is difficult. Firstly you need to consider if she says no, will the situation be awkward for you both? Pulling at the gym is not impossible though. I have done it once now recently, my buddy has done it at least 3 times. This girl, does she wear make up whilst working out? Does she keep her headphones in all the time? You need to think is she inviting or not. If a girl has her headphones in she more than likely is just there to work out and does not want to be bothered. I personally was in the same boat as you, the girl stared at me a lot, she never wore headphones, make up and essentially ended up working on the mats near me and because I noticed her doing an exercise wrong, found my window. One classic my buddy did... Which I guess could work for you haha, it's a little stupid. One girl, followed behind him to get water and he pretended to nearly walk into her... General chit chat and he did a throw compliment and essentially broke the ice and he could go talk to her as he pleased.
pteromom Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 There is some space to move between completely ignoring her and going over to "approach" her. How about - waving "HI" to her with a smile? Making small talk when working out near each other? Making a joke about the equipment or something else going on at the gym. Since you see each other regularly, it's OK to actually acknowledge her. When you do, see how she reacts. Does she smile? Look at you? Act like she wants to run away? Once you say hi to her, does she initiate saying hi, or does she act annoyed that you say it to her? Just start interacting with her! Oh and - just catching her staring at you doesn't automatically mean she's interested in you, and it doesn't mean she isn't. Could be staring at you for a variety of reasons. There's one guy I stare at all the time because he reminds me of a grown up version of my son, so I hope he doesn't think I am interested in him. LOL
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