AwesomeGal Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 Hi, My ex boyfriend and I started dating at the beginning of last semester. We only dated for about three months, but I lost my innocence to him and fell in love with him. Before we broke up, I knew something was wrong, but was too afraid to ask him about it. He ended up breaking up with my via drunk text. I did eventually talk things out with him, and he said he felt like he didn't spend enough time with me, which is his fault since he had kept asking for space, and that he thought he was too afraid to talk to me about our problems and that as a result we broke up. Anyways, we started texting again and a few days ago he asked me if it was okay if he dated another girl. I have class with him, so I am forced to see him every now and then. I just feel really sad, and need some words of help and encouragement. Also, I've had a lot of trouble focusing in that class just because I know he's there somewhere.
316 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 This ex of yours had the balls to break up with you and then ask you if it was okay to date another woman? Talk about adding salt to the wound. The "space" that your ex claims was the reason for the break up was nothing but a cop out. I guarantee you he broke up with you because of this new girl. He sounds like a jerk and someone who really isn't that considerate of your feelings at all. In my opinion you need to cut all ties you have with him and work on recovering.
na49 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 I know how much of a distraction having your ex in your class can be. I'd suggest switching out but it's probably too late for that. I'd say just keep to yourself. There's no real way to stop that from being a distraction though until your feelings are gone. Also what I've noticed is that we can't "forget them". They had a major impact on our life and will continue to be in our thoughts. For example, I was broken up with 4 months ago. I haven't gone a day without thinking about her. You're going to have the thoughts, try to control your emotions while you have the thoughts though. (easier said than done. I'm struggling with it right now but it can be done. I've thought of my ex and haven't felt emotions that were that strong)
gonefishin Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 This isn't great advice and its easier said then done... I think as he's in your class your kinda stuck with him .. But guys are very immature and some love the ego boost of Seeing a girl they broke up with upset ( sad and illogical I know ) My advice is what they say "fake it till you make it" Keep your distance from him as much as possible but try Stick the smile on and look happy . Try be yourself again and be happy ... Don't give this guy the satisfaction - he ain't worth it.. And don't worry we all cry behind closed doors that one person though defo doesn't need to see it!!! This guy is a bell end it's clear after how he acted you got a lucky escape if you ask me! Stay strong-- his loss !!!
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