Author Submisfit Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 Ha, I always forget how cold the rest of the country is this time of year. I've only ever lived in FL and HI . I guess you should shoot for the dinner then and hope for the best. Fingers crossed. This forum needs a jealous smiley face. 1
RebelWithoutACause Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 I wouldn't ask her out flat-out for a date unless she agrees to go somewhere casual with you after class first. Maybe study for your next practical or do your next lab writeup or some other form of homework together somewhere on campus where she knows you two will be alone, and will hopefully guess your intentions before you've even officially asked her out. OP, my advice is to steer clear of any casual hang outs with her at this point. You don't want to just be her "buddy", you want to date her. Which means removing yourself from the friend zone. Girls' interest and attraction is a fickle thing. If you think you have a window of opportunity you better you it quick, before it shuts in you face. BTW dinner is fine for a first date. Gives you time to talk. And if you take her to a proper restaurant it shows you've made an effort. And as we all know the ladies love an effort..
Author Submisfit Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 She said no. It was a little open ended, and if anyone could help me interpret I'd be super appreciate, but I'll probably create another thread on it later. So we talked some during lab, and she reiterated to me that she was single when I kind of steered the conversation in that direction.After lab I caught up with her in the hall and said "Hey, I've been meaning to ask you, and I know you've said you don't take interest in someone easily, but would you be interested in grabbing dinner sometime this weekend?" She smiled right when I asked, but replied "I'd like to, but I just can't...there's this boy I dated back in Mexico, and we're kind of together but he's not a boyfriend, but we're having a lot of problems right now, and I don't want to start with someone else when it's still up in the air. Maybe as friends?" We talked for another 10 minutes or so about how hard long distance relationships are (I tried one in the past that ended because of jealousy, which she says is really what's happening now,) and when I left I said "but yeah, I'm definitely interested, so if you get things resolved with him, it's a standing invite. Just let me know." I'm pretty sure this was a definite no on her part, but does any girl think there's any possibility in the near future? Generally when you start telling your opposite sex friends how bad your relationship is going, it's near the end stage. I'll continue to be her friend, and if someone else comes along I won't hesitate there, but I kind of want to know what my chances really are of anything happening in the future. I definitely think it'd be best to let her make the next move if there's a move to be made.
RebelWithoutACause Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 She said no. It was a little open ended, and if anyone could help me interpret I'd be super appreciate, but I'll probably create another thread on it later. So we talked some during lab, and she reiterated to me that she was single when I kind of steered the conversation in that direction.After lab I caught up with her in the hall and said "Hey, I've been meaning to ask you, and I know you've said you don't take interest in someone easily, but would you be interested in grabbing dinner sometime this weekend?" She smiled right when I asked, but replied "I'd like to, but I just can't...there's this boy I dated back in Mexico, and we're kind of together but he's not a boyfriend, but we're having a lot of problems right now, and I don't want to start with someone else when it's still up in the air. Maybe as friends?" We talked for another 10 minutes or so about how hard long distance relationships are (I tried one in the past that ended because of jealousy, which she says is really what's happening now,) and when I left I said "but yeah, I'm definitely interested, so if you get things resolved with him, it's a standing invite. Just let me know." I'm pretty sure this was a definite no on her part, but does any girl think there's any possibility in the near future? Generally when you start telling your opposite sex friends how bad your relationship is going, it's near the end stage. I'll continue to be her friend, and if someone else comes along I won't hesitate there, but I kind of want to know what my chances really are of anything happening in the future. I definitely think it'd be best to let her make the next move if there's a move to be made. Good on you for going for it. Sounds like you handled it great. I think the whole boyfriend in Mexico was just an excuse to let you down easy. She should have been upfront with you, but i guess some girls just don't have balls. No, I don't think it's likely she'll change her mind. You are better off focusing on something else. Let this one go. Oh, and btw distance yourself from her. If you contiue to shower her with attention she'll view you as yet another lovesick puppy in her collection.
Author Submisfit Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 Good on you for going for it. Sounds like you handled it great. I think the whole boyfriend in Mexico was just an excuse to let you down easy. She should have been upfront with you, but i guess some girls just don't have balls. No, I don't think it's likely she'll change her mind. You are better off focusing on something else. Let this one go. Oh, and btw distance yourself from her. If you contiue to shower her with attention she'll view you as yet another lovesick puppy in her collection. Well fwiw, she'd mentioned the guy before (in the context of saying that she'd seen a guy for 1.5 years, but hadn't considered him a boyfriend,) she just hadn't said anything about him being current at all. I'm not going to "focus" on someone else, but if someone else comes along to whom I'm attracted, I won't hesitate. Also, I don't shower her with affection. I treat her as I do all of my female friends that I'm NOT interested in; I just wanted to see if we could be a little more than that. And I prefer my girls without balls personally
wahine Posted February 17, 2013 Posted February 17, 2013 She said no. NOOOO!!!! Lol. I'm sorry dude . I agree with the other poster that her reason may have been an easy way to let you down. Even if it wasn't, you sound like a cool, considerate guy, and if she would rather deal with long-distance b.s. than say yes to a guy like you who's standing right in front of her, then good for her, and better for you. I think you're right to stay friends with her, but if I were you I'd definitely start looking in other places. You'll find the right girl for you, I have no doubt about it.
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