CARL45 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I recently went on a first date at a coffee house with a woman. While it well conversation wise I began to notice some things about her. She would always play with her hair( pulling lose hair out her head and just playing with it). Even when she gave me eye contact she would look down at play with a piece of lent on the top of the table. I didn't want to over analyze this,but I think I make her nervous. I was kind of put off,but I now am starting to think that she's a little shy. I can sympathize with that because I use to be just like that. I could be wrong,but does anybody have any ideas?
todreaminblue Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I recently went on a first date at a coffee house with a woman. While it well conversation wise I began to notice some things about her. She would always play with her hair( pulling lose hair out her head and just playing with it). Even when she gave me eye contact she would look down at play with a piece of lent on the top of the table. I didn't want to over analyze this,but I think I make her nervous. I was kind of put off,but I now am starting to think that she's a little shy. I can sympathize with that because I use to be just like that. I could be wrong,but does anybody have any ideas? When i feel insecure or shy i play with my hair i often smile but i do it looking down, it takes concerted effort for em to maintain eye contact with a guy i am interested in, sometimes i feel confident and i can strike up a storm of a conversation, on other days i dont and i find it hard to not be insecure and have it show outwardly, i am aware of body language and ill pull myself up....i read on here about peacocking(had to google it) and was horrified to think a guy would think i was trying to crack on to him because i play with my hair or start to pace....in other words show ponying.....i am the opposite i am nervous and shy when attracted ..so i would say in my opinion....she is shy......deb
MsSmurf Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Well was she smiling, responding to what you were saying, and asking you questions about yourself? If so she's probably interested and was nervous. If she was not paying attention to the conversation and kept checking her watch then I'd say she wasn't interested. 2
Author CARL45 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 She was interested and no she wasn't playing with her watch. Also something else I forgot to mention was she wouldn't speak up most of the time. I had to lean in to hear her. That's way I think she might be shy because I use to have that problem and I still do sometimes.
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 It's best not to overanalyze your date's behavior on a first date. You will often misinterpret things. Many people can be a little nervous and shy when meeting someone new for the first time. Did you like her? Would you like to see her again? If so, ask her out. It's always best to ask for the second date at the end of the first, just before your goodbyes. Failing that, call and ask the next day. If she says yes, then she liked you despite being quiet. If she says no, then she didn't feel you were a good match for each other. That's the only way to tell. Everything else is pure speculation. Good luck! 1
SJC2008 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 She sounds bored. Then she should if told a funny/interesting story to liven things up.
ScreamingTrees Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 How does someone act when they're neverous? I'm unfamiliar.
ja123 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 It sounds like she was nervous. Also, some women unconsciously play with their hair if interested in a guy. So, I'd say she was interested ... and yes, due to her interest, nervous! When are you seeing her again?
Author CARL45 Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 I'm going to see her again on Wednesday.
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